shutting myself in

darkangelism · 11-22-2005, 02:12 AM

I feeel like i have been shutting myself in, and its only getting worse. I actually argued with my friend about it, not that she helps the situation. But basically Im not going out anymore, i havnt been out in about 6 weeks, besides going to my bar, which isnt goin gout cause i sit there and watch tv, i dont really interact with anybody. I havnt been hanging out with friends at all either(hence my friend not helping, she tells me to go out and do stuff but wont spend time with me herself.) All my other friends are gone, working or mad at me so i just sit around all day, and the worst part is i dont really care. I was telling my friend that i might move to jersey and get a place by myself and she was like you shouldnt because then you cant go out at all, and im like i dont care about going out or doing anything. It bothers me that im just shutting myself in, but not badly enough that im gonna go do something about it, i am almost to the point of having no friends here, this girl will be out of my life in 2 months.

Luba · 11-22-2005, 10:04 AM

I have time enough to say before I log out to go to work...we're your friends...but it's a good idea to have social interaction as well...

darkangelism · 11-22-2005, 02:44 PM

yeah i am not counting you cause i dont see you in real life. This whole thing is bothering me and my response isnt the right one. My first thought was to leave and go home after i graduate, if i have no friends here there is no point in me staying here. But more realistically i should just try and solve the problems with my friends.

Ayla · 11-22-2005, 05:51 PM

You should definately try to patch things out with your current friends. If that's not gonna happen then go out and make some new ones. I have periods when I just want to stay home and not have to deal with people too, but to much of it isnt healthy. Make yourself go to a club, or where ever it is you meet people at. Just get out there.

Maybe set goals for yourself. Like...today I'm going to the mall and I'm going to talk to 3 people. Book stores are great places to strike up a convo....and make friends!

Just a thought.

darkangelism · 11-22-2005, 08:22 PM

yeah, i dont like having to make new friends, and if i have to i almost feel like i might as well move somewhere new and do it, so i dont have to deal with the old ones at all.

Duke · 11-23-2005, 01:51 AM

Personally I prefer making new friends rather than continual maintenance on existing friends. Who's to say your existing circle of friends are all that great?

IMO, if you have to work hard to keep a friendship, then it was never a friendship in the first place.

Weiser · 11-23-2005, 04:52 PM

my friends here suck. i'm glad i am starting a new job. i'm going to meet new people.

Meanon · 11-23-2005, 07:55 PM

Sorry to hear you feel bad, DA. I'd avoid making any big decisions about friends and places until you feel a little better. Part of the reason you don't feel up to sorting things out with them is because of your low mood, you may feel differently when you're feeling better. You've felt like this before with your friends and always been able to sort things out.

Try getting out, even if you don't feel like it. Staying in alone all the time will make you feel more adrift, less like going out - this in turn will make you more anxious and low. Are you still seeing your counsellor?

Duke · 11-23-2005, 10:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Weiser

my friends here suck. i'm glad i am starting a new job. i'm going to meet new people.

Your friends here rule dumbass :x

Weiser · 11-23-2005, 10:54 PM

Quiet you.

Duke · 11-24-2005, 12:07 AM

Merika · 11-26-2005, 09:21 PM

8) Meanon is my BEST friend......so I'm all set. I'm sorry everyone else has crappy ones.

darkangelism · 11-28-2005, 03:27 PM

yeah i didnt make any rash decisions like i usually do, im still kinda frustratated but better. I am still seeing my counsellor, though only 3 more weeks.

darkangelism · 11-28-2005, 11:16 PM

i fixed one friend problem, she skipped wroked to come apologize to me, so now im happy about that friendship