Senior Retirement Village or "Old Folks home"

[Luba]

I bet you young people are sorry I joined this site with all my references to aging when you are in the glory of your youth!

Maybe some of you have parents or grandparents that can no longer live at home and have to be "put" in a home, that must be very traumatic because most elderly people don't want to leave their own home and just feel so helpless and unhappy in a home.

I, for one, hope to live a long life with my husband, but if there is a sad turn of events and could no longer look after myself, the only reason being if I suffered from Dementia (God forbid) or when I needed someone to feed me (God forbid), I would want my children to not even think twice about looking after me, but put me in a home whether I act miserable or not (God forbid). I think if I still had my faculties and my sense of humour (I'm probably the only one that thinks I have one ) I wouldn't mind at all playing a game of bingo or shuffleboard, or gather around a piano and do some singing (not by myself, can't carry a tune). I just hope I wouldn't be one of those that took off in the middle of the night scantily dressed, if at all!

But seriously, it is not a laughing matter for those that have to make the difficult decision of putting their parents into a home unless it was decided before something did happen.

I, for one, believe that if I've lived my life, it is my children's turn to live their lives fully and not have to have the burden of me, life is short anyway, and we should all enjoy it while we can!

[Duke]

lol, this is a pretty obscure post.

I think that reputable fogie homes prolly have better facilities to take care of you in your "not so golden years" rather than family.

[Star]

I have mixed feelings about a nursing home.

My grandmother has parkinsons and needed more care then my mother could provide for her at home so we had no other choice but to place her in one of these homes.

We did our research and thought we had found the best one to put her into. It was at first but then it changed management and that's where the nightmare began.

My grandmother died because of incompitant care. My grandmother could not move a muscle at all. They have these cloth lifters to move these types of patients. well, she fell out of it and hit the concrete floor. she had stitches in the back of her head, behind her knee and bruises on both arms.

When I seen her this way at the hospital, i was livid to say the least. I went to the nursing home and wanted to see the lifter they used for her and to talk to the idiot in charge. the lifter somehow disapeared and couldn't be found. The idiot told me that my grandmother moved and slipped out of it. I called him a lier right to his face and informed him that she hasn't moved a muscle in years. I brought a camera with me and took pictures of everything, including the "no staff" around anywhere!!

Another thing I was angry about is that her roomate also had parkinsons and couldn't talk. this woman wanted to talk so bad when i was there but couldn't get the words out.

We ended up suing the place and won. it wasn't much but at least we fought for my gramma who didn't have to die with all that pain from her injuries.

So, because of this, I don't trust nursing homes at all. I'd rather hire a full time nurse to care for my parents rather then send them to a place like that.

My grandmother died from her injuries a couple weeks later.

[Merika]

I guess each situation has to be decided upon on a one to one basis. It depends on the family, the money and the reasons why the elderly person cannot take care of themselves any longer.

I would have a REALLY hard time sending one of my parents to the hand of strangers to take care of them. I would do all in my power to take care of them myself. However, I don't judge people at all for having to make another choice.

As for me personally being taken care of bymy family or being put in a home somewhere....I'd just as soon be put in a home. I wouldn't want them to end up resenting me for being a problem.