My Personal Dysfunction

Merika · 12-18-2004, 04:07 PM

I'll put this under this thread since I'm not sure where it goes.

As everyone knows, I am a total clean freak. However, with two teens...a dog and a cat...and limited space....this is really hard to pull off. I get so upset over a mess that I can't function or breathe. When my house is messy....I feel like a complete loser!

Is this some kind of DYSFUNCTION or what? I don't know how other people handle it.

I could devoted more time to it....but it would still leave notebooks on the kitchen table, glasses on the living room table, cat food which spills on the floor and a myriad of other things which drive me nuts. I stay in my room sometimes because it's the cleanest room in the house. It's the only one I can control.

I know Star has a housefull and other people in here have kids.....how in the world do you keep up without getting totally frustrated?

Star · 12-18-2004, 04:20 PM

I might say that my house was a much tidier place with just hubby and kassandra here. Now that Krystal and the baby are here, OMG!!! I lose it big time! I clean this place in the morning and by late afternoon, it looks like it did when I started to clean it in the first place! I hate it because I don't like a messy house.

My place isn't dirty, just messy most of the time. If I wanted to keep this place clean all the time, that's all I'd be doing is cleaning! I figure the mess will still be there the next morning and i'll get to it then. Krystal does try to help keep it clean. I'd say that she helps me the most. Hubby on the other hand doesn't do any cleaning at all and never did. He went straight for his mommy's apron strings to mine. It is my fault since I'm the one who started waiting on him in the first place so there isn't much i can do about it now. We have a silent deal. He takes care of the basement and the outside and I do the housework. Works for me.

Kassandra helps when i ask her to. To be honest, I'd rather do the cleaning myself because, me being a virgo and all, nobody can do a better job at it then me. :wink:

Have you ever noticed that people only stop by when the house is messy? I can have this place clean for a month and nobody would stop in until it became a mess again. :roll:

Merika · 12-18-2004, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by star_64

Have you ever noticed that people only stop by when the house is messy? I can have this place clean for a month and nobody would stop in until it became a mess again. :roll:

EXACTLY! I think that's why I love my online friends....they can't see into my living room!

Sn00py has his caseworker who will stop by from time to time during the Christmas break.....and I'm SPASTIC she will come by when our house looks like a tornado hit it. It's not dirty....it just usually has everyone's CRAP laying everywhere.

This really makes my kids unhappy though because they say I fuss all the time. And....really...I do!

Samson · 12-18-2004, 05:48 PM

Dear, dear Merika;

It seems to me that with two teens you've plenty of slave labor available to completely retire from housekeeping.

Give the house apes some chores.

Stone · 12-18-2004, 05:59 PM

Jeeze I wish I had that problem my problemis I dont mind a mess.

Star · 12-18-2004, 11:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Samson

Dear, dear Merika;

It seems to me that with two teens you've plenty of slave labor available to completely retire from housekeeping.

Give the house apes some chores.

easier said then done. I don't know about merika but I'd rather do it myself then arguing with them. Teenagers are no fun to argue with. they think they know it all! :roll:

Samson · 12-19-2004, 09:13 AM

Yes it is difficult to find goo help these days. Believe me, I know teenagers are not the easiest people to deal with, but they do have many wants don't they! Until the complaining ceases and cleaning begins, all wants may go unmet?

Duke · 12-19-2004, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Stoneheather

Jeeze I wish I had that problem my problemis I dont mind a mess.

lol, same here. In my mind, kids will be kids only once, the mess will always be there and can be cleaned at any time.

Merika · 12-20-2004, 02:12 PM

I was actually BRIBING them at $1-3 dollars a chore this morning and they informed me after 1 hour they had made enough money for Christmas and were done for the week! HAHAHAHA!

dogula · 12-20-2004, 03:13 PM

I mind the mess, I'm just to lazy to do anything about it and I can stand to exist in the mess.

Duke · 12-20-2004, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by dogula

I mind the mess, I'm just to lazy to do anything about it and I can stand to exist in the mess.

lol, same here.

Merika · 12-21-2004, 12:32 AM

But some people CAN NOT exist in a mess. It's the ultimate example of 'no control' over your environment.

I also wonder why this effects more males than females......even though in MY family....it's the males who are picky like I am.

Star · 12-21-2004, 12:51 AM

well i can tell you that i really hate living in a mess. My house is messy yet AGAIN and tomorrow I have a health nurse coming for a visit with krystal and the baby and she's bringing a video camera (taking movie clips once a month for the first year of erika's life and we get to keep that as a keepsake by her first birthday)!! I'm still up because I'm not feeling too well (earache, sore throat, chest cold) and it's almost 2 in the morning which means i have to get up early to CLEAN so i'm not embarassed when the nurse comes in. This sux! My house is messy every single night and it does bother me. I hate waking up to it in the morning.

I feel your frustration merika

Merika · 12-21-2004, 01:04 AM

I'd feel the very same way Star. I guess I feel the way my house looks is an inner reflection on me as a person.....or so I think. Maybe other people don't see it that way at all.

Funny thing is.....I don't judge the way other people keep house...unless they are just NASTY. But I always assume people will judge me by the house that I keep. Maybe it's a left over in how I was raised. I don't know.

I just know when someone shows up and I don't have everything neat, tidy and vacuumed....it's an embarassement.

Star · 12-21-2004, 01:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Merika

Funny thing is.....I don't judge the way other people keep house...unless they are just NASTY. But I always assume people will judge me by the house that I keep.

I don't judge that way either. I probably don't judge people that way because i compare them to how i feel. I don't know.

All I know now is that i'm feeling in a panic wondering if i'm going to have enough time to clean this mess and get ready in time tomorrow. 8O