Grief

Star · 01-02-2005, 07:35 PM

Grief has got to be the worst thing to have to go through in life. Losing someone you love is devestating. The emotions that one can experience when grieving can be overwhelming.

1. Denial and Isolation. We tend to deny the loss has taken place and may withdraw from our usual social contacts.

2. Anger. You may be very angry at the person that left you behind, at the world, with God and even at yourself for allowing this to happen even if there was nothing you could do to stop it.

3. Bargaining. You may try and bargain with God asking him if you do this or that for him, will he take away the loss.

4. Depression. You feel numb even though you feel anger and sadness deep inside.

5. Acceptance. As time goes by, you accept the reality of the loss and learn to live without your loved one.

The grieving process is approximately 2 years on the average. Some take longer then others to go through the process.

I lost my daughter's father when she was 11 months old to a road accident. He was on his way to work out of town (kitchener, Ontario) and never made it there. A transport truck made an illegal left turn and killed him instantly. I didn't find out until 8:00 pm that night. The police came to my door and I knew something really bad had happened to him. They then took me to go identify his body at the morgue. That image will be forever embedded in my mind. He left 3 daughters behind.

I had a very good support system when that happened to me. Thank God for my wonderful friends and family who were there for me, consolling me, keeping me busy so that I could grieve and move on. My daughter was my ultamate rock though. I had no choice but to get back up on my feet and move on for her well being. I think if I didn't have her at that time, I probably would've had a nervous breakdown at the age of 25. I had a reason to move on; my baby.

Merika · 01-02-2005, 09:57 PM

I can't imagine having to go thru a situation like that. It must've been horrendous!

I guess it's this type of events in our lives which mold our character....even though at the time....that's hardly a consolation.

That would've made a great front page article Star.

Duke · 01-02-2005, 10:45 PM

I'm sorry for your loss star, you are such a great lady and amaze me with some new attribute virtually every time you post.

darkangelism · 01-02-2005, 11:12 PM

wow, im sorry, that cant be easy.

Star · 01-02-2005, 11:51 PM

Perhaps I will write an article for the front page on Grief. I have a page on my website with links dedicated just to grief.

It wasn't easy at that time. I was just 25 years old so I was a widow very young. It did mould my character though. I realized at a young age that life is really short. It's best that you make whatever it is you want happen and not waste any time. Time is precious.

Duke · 01-03-2005, 12:36 AM

Your website, do you have a link?

Star · 01-03-2005, 05:28 AM

yes i do, it's in my profile. the link is http://www.geocities.com/starscozycorner/[/url]

Merika · 01-03-2005, 10:30 AM

I think I told you the first time you posted it what a great job you did on the site. It looks real good.

Is today your anniversary?

Meanon · 01-03-2005, 11:16 AM

That's awful star, a genuinely tragic loss. It goes to show that if you are a strong person, you can gain something positive amid the great loss.

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I realized at a young age that life is really short. It's best that you make whatever it is you want happen and not waste any time. Time is precious.

I bet your life has been a more rewarding one for learning this important life lesson at such a young age.

Star · 01-03-2005, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Merika

I think I told you the first time you posted it what a great job you did on the site. It looks real good.

Is today your anniversary?

Yes you did and thank you for visiting my site.

nope. today is not our anniversary. it's not until october. I have to get into the file manager and change it so it can count down again. laziness on my part. :wink:

Duke · 01-03-2005, 12:11 PM

Is there any chance that you'd exchange links with me star? If not then I fully understand.

I'll be adding your link to the Web Links Section and front page sometime later today.

Star · 01-03-2005, 12:12 PM

of course i will duke. not a problem

Star · 01-03-2005, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Meanon

I bet your life has been a more rewarding one for learning this important life lesson at such a young age.

Yes it has. I've learned to be kinder to people around me and appreciate them to the fullest as well. It woke me up to the reality of how short life really is. It has made me a stronger and more tolerant person.

Duke · 01-03-2005, 12:35 PM

OK, your site's added to the front page (bottom with affiliates) and will also be added to the web links later today.

Do you want me to use this description: Hello and welcome to Star's Cozy Corner. I hope you enjoy your stay and find the information within these pages useful and informative. I hope that I can be of help to someone with my personal stories. The greatest feeling of relief to a person who is in pain or afraid is to know that you are not alone. Knowledge is the power.

BTW, lol on the no right click hack, good idea but I still managed to steal your image, mwahahahahaha :twisted:

Star · 01-03-2005, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Duke

BTW, lol on the no right click hack, good idea but I still managed to steal your image, mwahahahahaha :twisted:

You can add, change or leave the intro as is. I'm leaving it up to you and thank you! I'll link your site to mine also in the next couple days.

That no right click thing used to work well until the XP came along. I really should remember to take that off since it's useless now. LOL! :P

I don't work on my site like I used to. I created those graphics years ago and was actually thinking of creating new ones. Maybe I can make my website a new project for 2005 and add to it.