wondering what kids will look like

[darkangelism]

Did you or do you wonder what your kids will look like? I do, i wonder mostly what skin color they will have, as i mostly go after white girls, and i gave up on my own race after the last girl(yes i feel like a racist fo it too)

[Star]

when my girls were born, I couldn't wait to see what they would look like at 2, 3, 4,etc... I'm not that way with erika. Time goes so fast that they grow up quickly.

Erika's skin tone is caramel. She's got a nice tan all year round. I don't think she'll get any darker. The nurses and my doctor told me that the color behind the ears is the color the skin will be and it can take up to two years to get there but Erika is already there.

Before I had kids, I used to wonder all the time what my kids would look like. If they'd be blonde, blue eyes, girl or boy.

[Meanon]

My kids are very pale with blonde hair. people have asked me if they are adopted. I'm anglo-indian - you've seen pics of my sis and I. we're a very light brown, sort of tanned looking i guess. Much depends on the specific ethnic mix, my dad's family come from the punjab generations ago, they were the group that emigrated to kenya and uganda.

Is skin colour that important to you? Does it make you feel different? I bet with the last girl it was more cultural issues, rather than skin colour that were the problem.

[Star]

Originally Posted by Meanon

Is skin colour that important to you? Does it make you feel different? I bet with the last girl it was more cultural issues, rather than skin colour that were the problem.

Are these questions directed to me? I'll answer them in case they are.

Skin color means nothing to me at all. Erika can be black as night and it wouldn't matter to me or anyone in my family one bit. Culture doesn't matter to me either. Krystal is 1/4 indian (not india indian but indian as in cowboys and indians) and she's always had a nice skin tone. Her biological dad was 1/2. means nothing to me.

I look at erika and i see no color. I see my beautiful little baby grand-daughter that I love with all of my heart. I brought up my kids with no prejudice. I taught them that we are all of one race, the human race. There is no color difference in our eyes.

[Stone]

I think that was directed at DA

I wonder what my baby will look like since my kids have diffrent dad's I hope they will look similar atleast. Greg and I look like brother & Sister so I am sure our baby will resemble both of us. However Noah is a spitting image of his dad except he has brown hair. Noah's eyes are very wide and a beautiful blue color with long eye lashes. Greg and I have squinty blue/ Hazel eyes so chances are our baby will to. BUT Greg's mother and sisiter are both very dark with Very dark hair and brown eyes... I hope Ally doesn't take after them ( they are beautiful) but look nothing like us

[Star]

oops. sorry.

after reading DA's post, I guess it would be.

[Duke]

I'm just happy that we had a healty, normal baby girl. I'm not hung up on any traits at all personally.

[darkangelism]

no skin color dosnt bother me, if it did i would stay within my own race. Its not the cultural differences, we didnt have many and our life views are similiar, and we are very compatible. Its more that i associate indian girls with not liking me.

[Duke]

Why is it you feel that indian girls don't like you?

[darkangelism]

cause the two i have liked didnt like me,lol. its just a few bd experinces and me generalizing.

[Duke]

The only reason I ask is that labelling a woman from a specific culture may be limiting the possibilities of romance for you.

[Meanon]

You know, DA, you've sometimes talked about feeling different and maybe that's why you have associated something external (appearance) with bad experiences. It's a common reaction.

A really good way of overcoming that feeling is to concentrate on what you have in common with people. In this case you had loads in common with those girls, including race. That's a good thing. The fact it didn't work out was probably just that it wasn't meant to be. They weren't right for you despite their race, rather than because of it. Duke's right, why limit your options?

[darkangelism]

yeah i do feel different. I think i am trying to limit my options so that i have an excuse for when something doesnt work out.

[Rock]

I have dated African American, Hispanic, Asian, and White girls. They were all beautiful. I have also wanted to date an East Indian girl, but I have found her very difficult to approach. These seem to be the only girls in my engineering classes. I have considered this more because of her culture than because of her color. I suppose that the culture has many taboos associated with dating that I do not know about.

I have also found that most racial difficulty I have had has not been because I have prejudices. Instead I find that all the races listed above have individuals who are racist and are prejudice against me (white).

Ethnicity is very attractive to me. Jen has a very faint English accent and I find girls with accents very attractive. I think it would be great to have kids with accents.

[Meanon]

I think i am trying to limit my options so that i have an excuse for when something doesnt work out

It's more likely to go wrong if you expect it to. Even if you don't, things don't always work out. that's life, it's the same for everyone.

I don't subscribe to the view that preference for a certain type of looks is a type of prejudice against those who don't share those looks. We should treat people fairly and with respect, that doesn't mean we have to fancy them all . Sexual attraction is either there or it isn't and to try and analyse, prescribe or manufacture it makes no sense to me.

[Duke]

Originally Posted by darkangelism

yeah i do feel different. I think i am trying to limit my options so that i have an excuse for when something doesnt work out.

Why?

Of all people, why would you limit options that you think are already limited?

[Rock]

[quote="Meanon"]

We should treat people fairly and with respect, that doesn't mean we have to fancy them all . Sexual attraction is either there or it isn't and to try and analyse, prescribe or manufacture it makes no sense to me.

I added the italics to the quote above because this is the type of word that Jen uses and I find attractive in addition to her accent.

[darkangelism]

East Indians fall into two catagories, new immigrants and americanized. Americanized are easy to date and dont care about race. New immigrants only date ithin their race and are controlled by their parents. I know some indian girls who were disowned by their parents because they didnt chose to become a doctor or engineer.


I am very race aware because my parents really stressed it. I limit options as an excuse, if i met any girl i really liked i wouldnt care, but im not going to go after indian girls like i used to.

[Rock]

Originally Posted by darkangelism

i met any girl i really liked i wouldnt care, but im not going to go after indian girls like i used to.

Why not just say "If met any girl I really liked I would not care about her race, but I'm not going to go after ANY girls like I used to?"

What do you mean by "go after?" How do you go after a girl? I think you mean meet, speak to, become friendly, and ask her on a date, right?

[darkangelism]

yeah thats what i mean, basically make an attempt to date, instead of just stay friends.

[Merika]

I don't think you can ever tell what your child is going to look like.....
I have one who blonde hair/green eyed, one brown/blue and the last one is brown/brown. I hope my granddaughter will end up with beautiful auburn hair like her Mom....but you never know.