My time alone

darkangelism · 05-31-2005, 12:03 AM

My parents have been gone for a few days and at first i thought it would be fun, not wearing pants, drinking beer all day...and what i found was that beer drinking isnt any fun alone and that clothes were a good invention for staying warm. I also spend way more time thinking when im alone, and thinking is bad, i have slowly become more and mroe unhappy, stressed and dpressed, oh and hopeless, that i started to feel upbeat because i started deluding myself. Im not really sure why im posting all this, and i need to go to bed cause i have work tomorrow a long 12 hour day.

Duke · 05-31-2005, 12:49 AM

Do you not like yourself da? The reason I ask is that alone time is really there for you to do whatever you like. Why don't you take a walk, go shopping, go for a bikeride, take a bus and tour around, or anything?

IMO, alone time shouldn't be used in a negative way, it should be used for self help and the downtime is good for recharging your batteries.

BTW, drinking alone is never a good thing.

Star · 05-31-2005, 07:18 AM

Drinking alone won't do anything but depress you further so that really isn't a good idea for you DA.

Duke has some really good suggestions. You'd be amaized at who you could meet going for a walk. I met several of my old boyfriends that way.

I love having alone time. I get to lay around and do nothing or go out and do what I want, alone or not, doesn't matter to me.

Duke posed a very good question. he asked you if you like yourself. If you don't like yourself, that could be the reason why you're so unhappy. You have to like who you are before you can be happy in your own skin. Nobody else can bring that happiness to you but you.

Don't do anymore drinking alone. Go to a bar to drink and miggle a bit instead.

darkangelism · 05-31-2005, 09:10 AM

yeah i know drinking alone is bad for me, i cant really go to the bar cause i have to drive, and then i cant get home afterward.

Duke · 05-31-2005, 09:55 AM

You really didn't answer the important question IMO.

Stone · 05-31-2005, 10:59 AM

You should have just came to Florida, who isn't happy at Disney world??!!! maby they will fly you down?

Rock · 05-31-2005, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Star

Duke posed a very good question. he asked you if you like yourself. If you don't like yourself, that could be the reason why you're so unhappy. You have to like who you are before you can be happy in your own skin. Nobody else can bring that happiness to you but you.

Is this from some book? I have heard Andrea say this to herself while she looks in the mirror. Maybe you could give it a try?

Star · 05-31-2005, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Rock

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Originally Posted by Star

Duke posed a very good question. he asked you if you like yourself. If you don't like yourself, that could be the reason why you're so unhappy. You have to like who you are before you can be happy in your own skin. Nobody else can bring that happiness to you but you.

Is this from some book?

I imagine that self-help books would have that written in them but I've always knows this. Any counsellor, psychiatrist or psychologist will tell you that you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Happiness starts within you.

darkangelism · 05-31-2005, 08:21 PM

oops, didnt see the question. For the most part i dont like myself, if im in a good mood i do, but on an average day i dont like myself so much. I feel out of place, like im not good enough.

my family is at Disney now, but i wouldnt be happy there, i couldnt stand being around my family in one bedroom for 2 weeks. Besides i earn money by staying home and having a job.

Stone · 05-31-2005, 09:51 PM

Have you ever been diaginosed with any depression problems/ mental illness?

The reason I ask is because as you know I am around several people with disibilities from blindness, deafness to parapaligics due to my fathers activities with the disibility center here, and most of them have depression problems. ARe you on any meds?

darkangelism · 05-31-2005, 11:41 PM

no, and no. I spent 9 months in thearpy, i am depressed, but not so bad that i need meds. It doesnt affect my daily life and im not a physical danger to myself or others. But i cant be certain s im not an expert in whether i should be on meds or anything. Im not depressed because of my disability, im depressed because i dont feel wanted.

Paul · 05-31-2005, 11:58 PM

been there, don't have the answer for you except that you're probably a lot more wanted then you realize.

Duke · 06-01-2005, 02:31 AM

No offense da, but there's not a lot of people that gravitate to others suffering from depression. There's only so much anyone can take when being in the company of a depressed person before they either start becoming depressed or resenting you for always being that way.

You really need to find a way to buck up my friend because your way of thinking is not healthy. I don't know of your phsical handicaps, but your mental ones are likely far more crippling. All your doing is hurting yourself here d00d and to be perfectly honest, I really don't think that you even want to heal deep down.

darkangelism · 06-01-2005, 08:17 AM

most people dont know im depressed, i can put on a convincing act that im not. I do want to get better i just lost the will to do it and staying depressed is easy.