motivations

darkangelism · 01-25-2005, 05:40 PM

This girl that i used to like, and she liked me back but had a bf randomly messaged me today and said that her bf moved to china. So im wondering if she is trying to get me in a relationship with her.

Duke · 01-25-2005, 07:00 PM

Never hurts to ask. Don't beat around the bush either, speak your mind and be clear of your intentions and see where it takes you.

Star · 01-25-2005, 07:03 PM

go for it DA! ya never know what will come out of it. As a woman, I can tell you that doing something like that, is usually a hint if she did like you back when she had the boyfriend.

darkangelism · 01-25-2005, 08:46 PM

I left it with her that i will talk to her soon and maybe that we could hang out.

We hadnt spoken in almost a year before this so i think it is what she wants. Even when she had a bf she would touch/ rub my arm, or put her hand on my leg, so the signs that she liked me were there.

This came at a good time too, i needed somebody to distract me from the fact that the girl i liked last semester is in half my classes, and though im trying to be friends it isnt that easy.

Stone · 01-25-2005, 09:48 PM

when will you see her?

darkangelism · 01-25-2005, 10:05 PM

I have no idea, i never set up a specific date, the sooner the better though, maybe this weekend

Merika · 01-25-2005, 10:14 PM

Instead of trying to guide it into being a 'relationship'.....why don't you just invite her to hang out with you as a friend first? Go for coffee, see a movie, meet up with other joint friends...or something to that effect. You have no way of knowing how she feel about this other guy leaving....so it would be better to be her supportive friend......than to expect her to jump into a new relationship too fast.

Don't try to make her a girlfriend......invite her to be your friend.....because friendships is what great loves come out of.

Duke · 01-25-2005, 11:42 PM

Good point Merika, low expectations is the way to go.

darkangelism · 01-25-2005, 11:51 PM

yeah i was prolly just gonna hang out first anyway, im not even sure how i feel about her, it has been a long time and there are a few other girls that im interested in.

Duke · 01-25-2005, 11:54 PM

Merika · 01-26-2005, 12:07 AM

Not a LOW expectation....only an OPEN expectation....where BOTH parties have a chance to enter....instead of only one of them.

Duke · 01-26-2005, 12:10 AM

I'd go with low, anything above is always a perk ;-)

01-26-2005, 12:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Duke

I'd go with low, anything above is always a perk ;-)

Recipe for success.

darkangelism · 01-26-2005, 12:24 AM

i dont think friendship is a real option, i tried to be her friend before and she pushed me away, i think the most likely scenario is she uses me for sex.

Merika · 01-26-2005, 12:39 AM

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Originally Posted by darkangelism

i think the most likely scenario is she uses me for sex.

And this is a bad thing?