Lifesupporters discussion

[Duke]

This is a bit of a sensitive issue really Zil and I've been struggling for how to share it for some time now. As I said in my first post, no one is to blame other than myself and I put it in bold text hoping that everyone would know this is an issue I'm 110% responsible for.

If you come here to joke around and have fun Zil you must be supported in that goal otherwise we've failed you. The idea is to give everyone a vehicle here to express themselves in the manner they see fit. The problem is that the forums are overrun with fun and it doesn't help someone who's really hurting.

What we need to do is to put things in their place a bit more so people with real issues feel comfortable enough to share here. Serious issues demand serious discussion so turning all our content into a laugh in is not putting our best foot forward and is of no value to people in need.

I want people to come here because they need to come here and then learn of this other dynamic which is lighthearted, fun, and silly at times; not come here and see lighthearted, fun and silly at times but nothing to help heal.

In truth you can laugh pretty much everywhere but the same can't be said for dealing with tough issues.

[TKDLady]

I understood what you said Duke. I guess as a moderator I need to pay more attention to what is being posted and move it to an appropriate topic when I see this happening. If I can't help you here then why am I a moderator? What are my tasks, specifically? I am also to blame in this regard.

[Duke]

You can't be held at fault to do something you were never told to do tk so it's not your fault. I'm hoping that coming clean about how I feel about this site will help mold it into something more toward the original concept while keeping it light in the manner we're all use to.

[Luba]

I, for one, have been following this discussion very closely and found something entirely wonderful that ties us together as a cool family! We're talking, communicating our feelings with care and loving concern! I, for one, have been naughty in a LOT of my posts, having fun, but I won't apologize for that...it just kind of happened and the serious issues went to a more jocular than serious side.

I've been apologizing most of my life, and an apology means you hurt someone, and I don't believe I did. But, IMHO, we may be taking things too seriously and feelings are hurt, when all I think, speaking entirely for myself, Duke made a proposition that the serious threads be serious, and the lightheartedness stay fun! So...I just want to know what to do and follow directions/instructions and move on!

I'm very happy with my online family and our Leader should be proud and happy as well! I'll do whatever it takes....and....I LOVE all you people!

[Duke]

Thanks Lu, great comments!

I don't want to change much but the small changes I will be proposing may have a huge impact on the site progresses either positively or negatively (I'm unsure). Either way I feel I have to give it a go which I'm hoping becomes more clear soon.

I'll be working on this novel (yes it's that long) and hope to have it out before the weekend is done. I'll also split this discussion shortly to it's own topic because it's a huge re-direction from the Facebook Topic it once was.

[IvyRose]

There's a Lifesupporters News Story - Justice for Michael

This story brought me to tears, in fact, I cried for almost three days over it. When I read the users comments about the story, I was destraught. (Yep, pretty much crazed.)

I didn't think I'd be posting here much longer because of the users response to this news story. However, I decided that the comments weren't bad. No one here has really gone through having to 'save their child' to the extent that Michael's father has. I understood his fight and his constant struggle. Although Michael's situation is far greater than my son's, I still understood exactly how his Dad felt.

What I'm trying to say is, it doesn't matter what some people say (good or bad) about a serious topic. Someone is going to react differently than anyone will expect. Whether it's due to the emotional turmoil they've once faced previously in their life and still have pain from or a current one.

I understand what Duke is saying about the light-heartedness through the board. I just don't think anyone should feel it is their fault alone and become jaded.

You are all good people or I wouldn't stick around. I may have rubbed you the wrong way or you I, but it doesn't mean the end of the world. I understand, we all have things in our past or present we're dealing with and some comments hurt. Even though, it wasn't an intentional hurt, it still stings.

Sometimes we don't understand why we get hurt over some comments, we just are. I've pushed too many people in my life away to not stop and think why some comments hurt me. So, I always try to give the benefit of the doubt and look deep inside myself first before blaming someone else that it was an intentional hurt.

I'm glad I started doing that. It's really changed my life.

I enjoy reading this board because of the people in it. You are all good people. Whatever the big undertaking is that we're all about to see, I hope none of you take it personally. It would hurt me to see this board fall and not just because it's Duke's dream, but because of this community being gone.

[Duke]

I'm just putting the finishing touches on this writeup and will publish it this evening. In doing so I'll also split this topic but it will remain in the Inner Me Forum because it's hidden from public view.

Nobody here is at fault for anything and I don't know how I can drive this message home more? I'm not blaming anyone for anything, I'm merely interested in bringing the focus back to this website because as it is right now, it's nothing like I imagined it being.

The other thing I should mention is that maybe I'm overreacting but as the sites creator I'd really like to adhere to the original plan, otherwise all this work will have been for not IMHO.

[Duke]

Locked.

Lifesupporters.com, past, present and future:

http://www.lifesupporters.com/forums...goal-6906.html

...it's a novel which is why I added quick navigation. If you have any comments, please post them within that topic.

Thanks.