I may be moving...

Apokryphos · 04-17-2005, 08:33 PM

Greetings all,
I'm posting today to make sure that I'm making the right choice for myself. I have an oppurtunity to move onto my grandmothers property which is about 54.3 miles or roughly 1 hr and 11 minutes from where I'm presently staying.

The thing that leaves me on a hand up about it is everything I have is up here. My kids, my pc, my band, friends...etc. I know this seems like a petty little whining post but I just can't seem to get into my take charge mode.
I know that if I'm down there, I may have a job, a ride, and I'm thinking about going to college down there. It's just the parting with my material possesions.

Any advice on what I should do? I know it's pretty much obvious to go and leave these things behind for a while till I can get back on my feet. But please give a little feed back...~

~Casey

darkangelism · 04-17-2005, 08:37 PM

bring stuff with you maybe? 1 hr and 11 mins?

You should do what you think is right, if you move out it might make it easier for your wife to leave with your kids, but im not an expert

Apokryphos · 04-17-2005, 08:58 PM

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Originally Posted by darkangelism

bring stuff with you maybe? 1 hr and 11 mins?

You should do what you think is right, if you move out it might make it easier for your wife to leave with your kids, but im not an expert

Can't bring along the PC and Band...I know it's not a huge distance but she lives out in the sticks! There's no real stores till you get into the next town, and so on. It's actually next to the Talledega National Forest, so there's not a lot of people that I know down that way.

I'm pretty sure I'm going to go, my younger bestfriend told me, "sometimes you've gotta just disappear and get your sh*t together then come back when your back on your feet." Which made lots of good sense to me, b/c I can't help anyone else including my kids without first helping myself.

As for her leaving? Who know's, I've came to the reality that I can't do anything about it anyway, and if she's determined to do it she's going to do it. I don't want her to go but no one is going to know where I'm at so...Idk.

Star · 04-17-2005, 09:25 PM

it might not be a bad idea to get away to clear your head and heal. Even if it is just for a little while. that could do you the world of good.

You can go back to your "stuff" and place can't you? or do you have to sell everything?

twinkle · 04-17-2005, 09:44 PM

Don't expect to figure everything out while you're away. That hardly ever happens. Go knowing you'll have some time for yourself, maybe some good quality time, who knows.

I like to write when I'm alone, so fetch a guitar and a notebook with you, just in case. A book or two too keep you company, a set of cards (who knows whom you'll run into) and you're all set.

Take care now,

T.

Duke · 04-17-2005, 09:48 PM

You can always get another PC ;-)

You have to look deep inside of you and figure out what is best for you. I know that you've been under turmoil with the way things are so a break from it may be just what the doctor ordered. We will miss you around here though :?

Apokryphos · 04-17-2005, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Star

it might not be a bad idea to get away to clear your head and heal. Even if it is just for a little while. that could do you the world of good.

You can go back to your "stuff" and place can't you? or do you have to sell everything?

Yeah that's what I'm thinking...I'm just going to go without letting hardly anyone know that I'm gone.

No, I'll still have all of my stuff here b/c I'm living with my father...He stays out of town on business a lot so I just moved in here to watch over the place. However, when my soon-to-be-ex-wife left she took the car and therefore my transport to work...so if I move for a couple months or so until I can get back on my feet.

Apokryphos · 04-17-2005, 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Duke

You can always get another PC ;-)

You have to look deep inside of you and figure out what is best for you. I know that you've been under turmoil with the way things are so a break from it may be just what the doctor ordered. We will miss you around here though :?

Hey, you know I may be able to take my PC with me...Since my father is leaving for Jacksonville, Fl. for a year or whatever, so he wouldn't need it.
So this may be better than I thought....

Yeah, I've been thinking on it hard...and I've got kids to take care of, sitting in the house without a job isn't doing that, or paying my bills so I'm going to just go ahead do what I got to do. I'm grown now, and I need to realize that...sorry I don't mean to "gripe" or whatever, I think it's partly to do with my parents and everyone else pretty much give me what I want and bail me out too much and I'm just now seeing that.

Thanks for the support I really appreciate it from everyone.

Thanks a million,
Casey

Star · 04-17-2005, 10:47 PM

this will do you a lot of good. you'll probably feel a lot better about yourself in the end. Sometimes, getting away from it all for awhile is the only way to renew your thinking. good luck to you and do take that puter with you so that we can at least talk to you! :wink:

Duke · 04-18-2005, 12:44 AM

The other thing to keep in mind is that your kids suffer when your not feeling well emotionally either. Unfortunately a lot of parents don't realize how miserable and stressed out their kids are because their too miserable and pre-occupied to see it. Make yourself happier and your family will reap the rewards.

Merika · 04-18-2005, 09:39 AM

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...Since my father is leaving for Jacksonville, Fl.

That's where I live! Small world!

I don't know how you are set up financially, but would living in the new place allow you to work since it's so far out?

Apokryphos · 04-18-2005, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Apokryphos

...Since my father is leaving for Jacksonville, Fl.

That's where I live! Small world!

I don't know how you are set up financially, but would living in the new place allow you to work since it's so far out?

Well right now I'm in Birmingham, Alabama...there's tons of jobs available here that I could get with ease but I can't b/c I don't have transportation...so by moving down to Sylacauge, Alabama I won't have access to as many jobs, but I'll transport to get to the ones that I do have available. Did all that rambling make sense?

Duke,
Yes, I've always heard this and I try to be happy around my children to help them feel better. I haven't seen mine in 2 weeks, and it's driving me crazy! lol.

Thanks,
Casey