I heard once that the best way to live was to imagine what you want on your tombstone or said at your eulogy and make it happen.
Like Here lies Faye she was.....
I wanna be generous, compassionate, a good wife and mother, intentionally funny (I'm often accidently but I don't think that counts

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I wish my headstone could read
Here lies Faye- she made a difference in the world.