Sad time for a friend

[wolvesjr34]

Yesterday I greeted my best friend B. for the first time in a few weeks, thinking she had returned from the vacation she had planned with her girlfriend L. (one of my other friends).

I was shocked to hear that the day of the vacation, as they were driving to airport, L's Dad phoned them to advise that L's sister had passed away in her sleep.

I just sat quietly reading as B. told me what happened. It was so very sad. The only thing I could think of, was how grateful I was that L. has B. there to help her through, what I can only imagien to be one of the hardest things in life to deal with.

Life is so very unfair.

I know there's not really much I can do, but today I gave B. some advice that I think is important for us all to remember in such a situation.

" If the world gives you a reason to smile and you do, don't feel guilty about it afterwards, it's okay to still feel happy at any given time, it's not a sign of disrespect."

That being said, I am fortunate to have never lost anybody I care about during my lifetime. And when I do, I'll undoubtedly ignore my own advice.

[Luba]

You know how to be a GREAT friend!

[wolvesjr34]

I should have known something was wrong (I actually thought maybe their relationship was deteriorating - as that had been happening prior to vacation time) when I came home to an email from B. asking if I was going to be online.

She's not a big emailer. Hence the give away. I wasn't expecting this.

[wolvesjr34]

I told B. just now how I wouldn't change anything that happened in the past, because I believe this is where she needs to be and can do the most good.

She told me I am a special person.

I don't know about that, I just love my friends.

[Luba]

Originally Posted by wolvesjr34

She told me I am a special person.

I don't know about that, I just love my friends.

She's right, you know, you ARE special! I know that already by just your posts where your heart resides!

[Scott]

Originally Posted by wolvesjr34

She told me I am a special person.

I don't know about that, I just love my friends.

I think what she meant was that your response to her situation was special in that very few people, including myself, have the ability to appropriately empathise with others.

[PepsiChic]

i am sorry to hear of your friends loss, not only is it good that B is there for L, but that you are their for B!

Sometimes having someone outside of the situation to talk to helps a lot, and im sure she really appreciates the shoulder your giving her to lean on.

[wolvesjr34]

Originally Posted by Scott

I think what she meant was that your response to her situation was special in that very few people, including myself, have the ability to appropriately empathise with others.

Yeah you're probably right. I just have trouble believing I do anything right sometimes.

[wolvesjr34]

Okay, so lets make that two friends... well one potential.

J. told me today her Father is seriously ill and from what I know she's closer to him than anybody else in her family. I don't know the details of the illness yet, but I worry greatly for her. I hope it's something her father can bounce back from.

I kind of suspected somebody in the family was going to be suffering a serious illness, just from the way her Mother and Father begged her to hurry up and go back to Colorado.

I've never felt more helpess in my life. Selfish I know, but I just want to be there for her so bad through all of this. Though I suspect she'll push it to the back of her mind until it becomes something she cannot ignore.

I worry.

And Pepsi, please don't mention this to her. I just needed to get this off my chest somewhere. I don't think she'd be happy if she knew I'd mentioned this to anybody.

[PepsiChic]

no problem chick, the reason i dont invite everyone from hwg here is because then we wouldnt feel the freedom to talk about things like this.

what is said here stays here dont worry. and im sorry to hear about her father, that must be hard on her. i hope he recovers well