my grandfather is dying

darkangelism · 04-13-2005, 11:27 PM

my grandfather is dying, he is in the hospital with only a few weeks at most left, i dont really feel bad though, i have made my peace. I am more concerned abou my dad who sasy he doesnt want to go to the funeral.

Duke · 04-14-2005, 02:07 AM

I remember when my grandfather (on my fathers side) died, it was actually a joyous occasion. I know I'm going to burn in hell for it but the guy caused our family pain for many years.

Paul · 04-14-2005, 03:54 AM

That's the same with my mother's grandfather, she took me too his funeral when I was about 15 and hardly anyone showed, only immediate family. No one cried, not one of his kids, grandkids or greatgrandkids. Apparently the guy was a prick. :?

Duke · 04-14-2005, 04:43 AM

Sick huh?

You gotta be a real arse to pass on and have no one mourn you.

Star · 04-14-2005, 06:27 AM

I'm sorry to hear that DA.

Why doesn't your dad want to go to the funeral?

darkangelism · 04-14-2005, 10:29 AM

he says he has made peace, and that his dad will be dead and wont know he is there anyway. That funerals are just for the living.

Star · 04-14-2005, 10:42 AM

oh okay.

darkangelism · 04-14-2005, 10:55 AM

i feel like he might regret it afterwards though, and the fact that im more then likely gonna be my families representative and will have to explain his not being there.

darkangelism · 04-14-2005, 11:48 AM

ok i was thinking, maybe i should ask P to come with me to the funeral(provided he dies soon) she owes me a few in the favor bank. The benefits would be a non family person around, i would have a few more chances to progress the friendship into more. There would also be fringe benefits of making it seem to my extended famly that i can have a beautiful, nice girl,( i wouldnt say either was if she is my gf or not). Though that reason feels more shady.

downsides would be that i might come off as too needy.

Im pretty sure that she would go if i asked her to.

Duke · 04-14-2005, 02:34 PM

Holy crap man, you'll turn anything into a dating scenario. Why on earth do you want to invite a gal to a funeral?

Paul · 04-14-2005, 02:59 PM

Bad idea, she'll see right through it and you'll look like an ass.

darkangelism · 04-14-2005, 03:03 PM

true, i prolly wont do it, it is a selfish thing. It wasnt about the funeral, i dont care about that really.

I am thinking about just giving up and start putting space between us, i dont want to do this anymore, the pain i know that im gonna feel after it all falls apart isnt worth it.

ahhhh, im so going crazy over all this, im creating things in my head that dont exist, i just talked to her and there is no problem im just creating them.

Duke · 04-14-2005, 03:29 PM

Why are you preparing for pain when you don't even know how she feels? Are you aware that you go through all the stages of romance, from falling in love to the pain of breakup, without ever having a girlfriend?

darkangelism · 04-21-2005, 01:13 AM

i had totally missed the last post...and well now its all been resolved, but yeah i go through all the stages.

Anyway... my grandfather is in a coma, no life support, he has maybe a week to live, most of my family is freaking out over it,

Merika · 04-21-2005, 10:50 AM

I'm sorry to hear it DA... it's always hard on a family to lose someone they love. However, at least he was able to live a long life and pass on the family name. I don't have any living grandparents....but I sure dread the day when my own parents die. It will be an unbearable loss for me. I really feel for your folks DA....this is surely a rough time for them.