Mother's Day

YellowLioness · 05-04-2005, 01:02 PM

Alright, so I'm trying to be the bigger person in the situation, and Beanie's mom is coming to our house (with out her jerk boyfriend) to stay this coming weekend, and have a mother's day dinner.

Bean says she wants to talk about what happened this past November, but I'm not sure I want to talk about it. I'd really rather just move on with life, and forgive and forget.

I know I'll only get mad again if she brings it up, because nothing she says will really make a difference to me- I don't exactly mean it the way it sounds, it's just that any person who makes a mistake will look to justify it in some way so that they don't come out looking as awful.

I just don't want to have to tell her that, "I understand," or whatever nonsense I could say to make her feel less guilty for being nasty. Maybe I'm being selfish, I don't know.

Beanie, in a fit of irrationality, also invited my mom to go to the same dinner. The big problem is that MY mom knows what his mom did, because I told her. I just hope that my mom is mature enough to just enjoy her dinner, which, I think she will be.

We've been together nearly 2 years, and our parents (who are both single moms) have never met. We were just afraid they'd be too different to enjoy eachother's company.

My mom (as you know) is an ultra conservative school teacher.

His mom is an old, burnt out hippie.

Whoo doggy! Wish me luck on this coming weekend. I know I'll need it.

I'll keep you posted!

darkangelism · 05-04-2005, 01:14 PM

I hope everything goes smoothly, maybe not have a fight for the sake of peace and trying to enjoy the weekend.

YellowLioness · 05-04-2005, 01:28 PM

yeah, I hope it all goes well, too.

I'll probably stay gone most of the weekend, just to give Bean a chance to spend time with his mom.

If she brings it up, I'm sure I will be kind to her. I can't not be. I'm all bark, but no bite, and when it comes down to it, if she is nice to me, I will be nice right back.

darkangelism · 05-04-2005, 01:40 PM

Thats good, and maybe the mothers will get along, opposites do attract.

Star · 05-04-2005, 01:50 PM

My mother and my mother in law really aren't crazy about eachother either. They had it out with eachother when kassandra was a baby in the hospital. Since then though, they are civil with eachother when they do see eachother, which isn't very often. being that there would be way too many people if we invited both sides of the family, our families don't mingle too much. that's a good thing!

It'll probably go smoothly. You'll probably have a lot of fun. enjoy the day.

hmm...wonder what i'm doing for mother's day? gerry will probably be working. maybe i'll take a trip to my parents and spend it with them since i'll have my van on the road by then!

YellowLioness · 05-04-2005, 02:20 PM

How far away do your parents live, Star?

Anyway, I understand what you're saying with the whole family mingling thing...

Yeah...sometimes space is best.

I'm sure things will go well. My mom is goofy funny when she wants to be, and Beanie's mom is funny, too.

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Thats good, and maybe the mothers will get along, opposites do attract.

LOL, like that Paula Abdul song...Beanie's and YL's moms end up running off into the sunset together. Oh, and I'm goofy too, now.

PS. anyone else think that Paula Abdul seems drunk constantly on American Idol?

Merika · 05-04-2005, 03:37 PM

You know YL....you can't avoid this woman considering you plan to spend the rest of your life with her son and have grandchildren for her one day. It's best to let it go.....bite your tongue....and ask your Mom to do the same. Family arguments should always be avoided. Even if they are quirky and irritating.....they are still going to be around.

Use the old Bible suggestion "Kill her with kindness"....be so wonderful until there is nothing she can say. These things work.

Star · 05-04-2005, 05:50 PM

my parents live 1 1/2 hours away. it's a nice little drive. :?

i agree with what merika is saying. the less fuiding, the better for everyone. especially the kids.

darkangelism · 05-04-2005, 06:15 PM

thats not that far, well with a baby it probably is.

Merika · 05-04-2005, 06:28 PM

Actuall DA.....babies are cool on trips. You crank up the car and the little buggers fall asleep. I used to hate getting home and having to wake them up.

Star · 05-04-2005, 09:03 PM

merika's right. want a baby to stay quiet? take them for a nice long car ride. erika sleeps right through them. she'll even sleep right through a feeding when she's in the car. My kids were the same way. I think most babies are like that.

I just hope gerry gets home early enough on friday so that i can put this van on the road. i have to go to the insurance first then to the licence bureau to register it and pay the taxes. I really do want to go someplace this weekend with the kids and gerry if he isn't working.

I have a really good mother's day gift this year. i get a vehicle! yeah!

darkangelism · 05-04-2005, 09:07 PM

thats a good gift, i wonder what my family is getting my mom, ill get her a card, but they spend more money.

Star · 05-04-2005, 09:08 PM

If i do go up there this weekend, i'll probably get my mother some flowers or take her out to dinner.

Duke · 05-04-2005, 11:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Merika

Actuall DA.....babies are cool on trips. You crank up the car and the little buggers fall asleep. I used to hate getting home and having to wake them up.

Of course this assumes that the babies are used to travelling, some kids are downright horrible travellers. Science has proven that exposing the child in utero to road trips increases the chances that they will travel well after birth. In fact, it's best to acclimatize <sp> your child to some of your regular routine before their born.

YellowLioness · 05-05-2005, 10:19 AM

Yeah, I know, I know. That's the whole point of her coming to stay. I'm going to let things go, and I hope that the situation is brought up so that we can all just have a nice weekend.