meeting people

darkangelism · 06-18-2006, 10:52 PM

I am finding that is has been really hard to meet people, i mean i have a few friends from work, but they are older, im at least a few years younger then everybody at work, most are married and or have kids. Also its hard to meet girls, as i work with nearly all guyys, and i dont see muuch of the sales women. my parents have started asking about me meeting girls, and its a lot harder when i live at home then when i lived halfway across the counry so they didnt know what happened or didnt happen.

Weiser · 06-19-2006, 12:35 AM

Take a night class in college, something girls take.

Join a gym.

ratemyface.com

Bars.

Um....just go up to girls at the grocery store, coffee shops, bookstores....

TKDLady · 06-19-2006, 02:17 AM

Take Weiser's advice. It probably isn't good to date people you work with anyway unless you are never in the same building or something. Don't try so hard. It will happen when it happens.

darkangelism · 06-19-2006, 07:17 PM

yeah i was gonna start going to bars, i havnt gone since march.

Duke · 06-19-2006, 09:58 PM

Bars aren't the best places to meet people, there just fun to go to with existing friends. What you need to do is find some sort of hobby/sport that takes you out of the home and puts you in a team environment. You then hang out with your teammates and eventually end up meeting people from other teams. After a short time, you'll be amazed at the sheer number of new friends you've made.

darkangelism · 06-19-2006, 10:25 PM

yeah i know bars are not the best places, but there are not that many other options, yeah sports is a good idea, though im not sure if im good enough to play.

Weiser · 06-20-2006, 12:45 AM

Just join a rec league...I'm playing beach volleyball for fun. It's relatively cheap, you meet lots of people, and the girls wear like nothing.

darkangelism · 06-20-2006, 08:48 PM

yeah that would work, i might do that, i think ill start with bars.

Duke · 06-20-2006, 11:54 PM

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yeah i know bars are not the best places, but there are not that many other options, yeah sports is a good idea, though im not sure if im good enough to play.

Nobody is when they first join a team sport either.

If your so dead set on bars, why not join a pool team or a darts team? Just hanging out at bars isn't going to get you anywhere and if it does, it's likely because she was drunk and you took advantage of her. This is not the foundation for a strong relationship.

TKDLady · 06-21-2006, 06:09 AM

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Originally Posted by darkangelism

yeah i know bars are not the best places, but there are not that many other options, yeah sports is a good idea, though im not sure if im good enough to play.

Nobody is when they first join a team sport either.

If your so dead set on bars, why not join a pool team or a darts team? Just hanging out at bars isn't going to get you anywhere and if it does, it's likely because she was drunk and you took advantage of her. This is not the foundation for a strong relationship.

Amen!!!

darkangelism · 06-21-2006, 07:29 PM

i live in a sports centric part of the country...my brother is 6'1 200 lbs and is too small to play basketball...but im sure i could find placecs to play.

I dont care about having a meaningful relationship, i just need something so that im not stuck at home and or be able to get my yparents to stop pressuring me.

Meanon · 06-23-2006, 05:19 PM

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i just need something so that im not stuck at home and or be able to get my yparents to stop pressuring me.

Have you told them that you appreciate that their concern is because they love you but that the pressure is not helping?

DA you are a great guy, as soon as you relax with people and stop thinking about how you come across that shines through. It doesn't mater where you meet people, you need to find ways of shifting your attention away from yourself so you stop worrying how you come across. Then they see the real you.

darkangelism · 06-23-2006, 07:23 PM

i dont think its how i come across is th eproblem, as im simply not meeting people to have impressions of me, tomorrow some people from work are having a party, so im gonna go to that, but its mostly people i already know.

Meanon · 06-24-2006, 08:46 AM

Oh I see, I thought you meant that you found it hard when they were there. I was wondering why that was, as you had no difficulty meeting Tara and I

I have difficulty meeting single guys too. Most are in their 20s (nothing in common other than a love of dancing) and those my age are married or single for a reason. Maybe I'm just fussy.