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11-17-2005, 07:03 PM
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i might not be staying in NY
Well the girl who was gonna be my roomate after we graduate backed out on me, her bf of 10 days asked her to move in, so she said yes, and with 7 weeks til im done i have no roomate now, so im prolly gonna go home. Im kinda mad at her cause they havnt been going out that long and we had decided this awhile ago.
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11-17-2005, 07:25 PM
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Well atleast you know what type of person she is.
Have you tried looking in a newspaper for roommates?
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11-17-2005, 07:43 PM
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no not yet, i posted right after i found out. The sad thing is im not surprised that she did this, she treats me badly when it suits her. She only cares about herself usually. But when the friendship is working then its one of my best, it just has huge lows also. Now she is trying to make it up to me by taking me to the movies.
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11-17-2005, 09:04 PM
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roomates. there are so many problems with having roomates. i've had a few. A couple of them moved out to live with their boyfriends. I didn't get mad at them, i was happy for them and looked for a new roomie. no sense losing a friend over them finding happiness. 
new york is a big place and i'm sure there are a lot of people looking for roomates and advertising it in the paper or on flyers at the grocery stores. 7 weeks is plenty of time to find a roomate DA. I'm sure you'll find one. if not, then you have to look at it as it wasn't meant for you to stay in new york. I truly am a huge believer in fate and if fate has you placed elsewhere, then fate will make sure that's where you end up.
good luck da. 
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11-17-2005, 09:28 PM
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Can you also post something on the bulletin board or community paper?
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11-17-2005, 10:10 PM
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yeah i realized i was overreacting, i should be happy that she is happy...even if its a guy who just broke off an engagement and is using her as a rebound, but even though i dont like it, its not my place to say so. I actually have another roomate lined up, but he is my best friends ex boyfriend and she wont be happy if i live with him. I wish i didnt need a roomate, maybe i should move to jersey or something where its cheaper.
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11-17-2005, 11:12 PM
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You sure allow yourself to get caught up in a lot of drama. Have you ever thought that if you didn't live life in a soap opera that you may have a bit easier of a go?
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11-18-2005, 02:08 AM
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well i always thought my life would make a good TV show. But yeah my life is crazy, and full of people who are not mature(myself included)
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11-18-2005, 11:30 AM
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Try distancing yourself from it and/or getting into a new circle of friends. You have way too many of your own issues to be bogged down with other peoples problems.
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11-18-2005, 01:48 PM
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yeah ill try, once i get a job ill end up being friends with co workers probably.
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11-18-2005, 06:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Duke
You sure allow yourself to get caught up in a lot of drama. Have you ever thought that if you didn't live life in a soap opera that you may have a bit easier of a go?
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LOL I didn't know that was avoidable, atleast it hasn't been for me |
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11-18-2005, 10:16 PM
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Its very avoidable, if you show no interest in it people will stop getting you involoved. It also helps to say that you don't participate in the rumor mill and be up front about not wanting any extra drama in your life.
It worked for me.
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11-18-2005, 11:20 PM
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Its harder for me cause im young and deal with inmaturity.
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11-19-2005, 01:51 PM
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Originally Posted by darkangelism
Its harder for me cause im young and deal with inmaturity.
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BS.
Its only difficult because you have no desire to get out of the loop. Maybe it serves some deep inner need to feel included or simply makes you feel good that people confide their dirt with you. Either way, its not a youth related issue, its desire and you simply lack it.
Once you've been involved in the down and dirty of your friends for any length of time and been pulled in the middle where you don't belong, you may realize its not the place to be.
Also, telling people your not interested in the drama does not make them confide in you any less, quite the contrary. Pretty much everything you will hear is about the individual rather than their take on the worl | |
