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01-13-2005, 04:55 PM
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So, about my mom...
She likes you, baby. She's just batty and going through menopause. You could try to approach her and tell her how you feel, and she may or may not take you seriously, as bad as that is to say. You could just try to ignore the situation, ie. grin and bear it. Perhaps if you just avoid her...hrmm...and that's not hard 'cause I rarely go see her. I love my mom, I really do, but I know that she is best taken in very small doses. She doesn't mean to be batty... BTW, it is true what Bean said about her. My little brother still lives with her and hides from her. Really, it's better to escape notice with her. If you don't escape notice, she'll yell loudly and want you to do lots and lots of favors for her so that you don't have time to do anything else. She also doesn't say, "thank you." Even if you REALLY go out of your way. And then she acts like she's the only one who is allowed to have a point of view, or any respect-- for example, she's on the phone from the time she gets home until the time she goes to bed. So, if I'm at home and need to call Beanie it's a big issue for her because she has to interrupt her phone calls. All of a sudden, because my need for the phone inconveinces her, she says things loudly to her male callers such as, "boy, you can tell she's home again!" and "Oh, here it starts, here it starts. The minute she walks in and you can tell she's here!" And that's just to use the phone for 5 minutes so I can tell my fiance that I made it to her house in one piece. :-P Beanie is really laid back. Most of my past boyfriends have been more outspoken about my mum. I feel like her actions look bad on me, and so I feel like I have to apologise for her. *sigh* I really don't know what to do. Talk about stuck! |
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01-13-2005, 09:47 PM
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Oh YL, my mom was a highschool teacher. Due to that...she felt she had a special ticket to boss everyone younger than her around. After I was first married, my husband simply said at her dinner table that he wasn't fond of brocolli. She immediately told him not to be a smartass and to eat his veggies. NO JOKE! I was mortified!
This only blends into all the countless 'special times' she has yelled out of the car window, told off my friends, other family members, people at church...she doesn't care. If she THINKS it....you'll HEAR about it. I have a GREAT Mom who loves me, and her entire family, very much....she just is who she is. I bet your Mom is the same way. What is SCARY....is that as you get older....you start picking up some of their habits. I do it all the time and my kids REMIND me and call me Grandma names. HAHA! Don't apologize for her. Let her be who she is....and let people learn to love her just the way she is. It's not your place to have to fix it. If you take it upon yourself....you'll only be exhausted....cause SHE AIN'T CHANGING! LOL! |
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01-15-2005, 02:06 PM
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I would suggest that you and YL make sure that you both understand each others complete thoughts on the mother/mother in law issues before going to mommy-dearest with anything. Then I suggest you talk to the mother in law one-on-one and catch her (if possible) in an open frame of mind. Tell her what your thoughts are and ask for her thoughts, in fact, it's better that you ask what she's feeling prior to you venting.
I think the only way to deal with any situation properly is through good honest communication. If the situation starts getting heated then agree to re-schedule it at a time where you are both in a much more open frame of mind. If all the ex's hated her then it's likely there is a problem. You may need your lovely wife to offer up some support in this situation and provide a bit of a united front. Remember, some parents never fully believe that there is anyone good enough for their little angels and some people will let it get in the way of actually getting to know their childs significant other. Good luck, thanks for posting and welcome to Lifesupporters PiNtOBeAn. I apologize for getting to this post so late but my life has been extremely hectic the past few weeks. |
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01-17-2005, 02:44 PM
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01-17-2005, 02:53 PM
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01-19-2005, 05:09 PM
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Well, here I am again.
Um, right now it's sort of a stale mate. My mom doesn't take criticism well, especially from people outside the family. We've decided to keep a bit of distance from us and her. It's not that I don't love her, but really it's better that way. My mom and I don't get along well when we are too close for too long. I just can't take being ordered around, and never being right. 8O As for what Beanie wants to do...I'd go along with whatever decision he makes. He'd never do anything to hurt me or mom in any way, so I trust what he thinks. |
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02-02-2005, 11:24 AM
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This is true!
Yeah...she's domineering, but she's not totally evil, now BEANIE's mom...she's got some problems. I don't know if I should vent them in this thread, or start another. LOL. Shoot, if he can vent...why can't I? |
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