Family Funeral Plans

Merika · 02-23-2005, 10:05 AM

Have you ever discussed with your family everyone's wishes regarding funeral arrangments?

I personally think it's better to discuss it over coffee with all present....than to bicker over it later.

darkangelism · 02-23-2005, 10:44 AM

Yup, if my parents die, i make all the descisions, but they want to be creamated.

For my grandparents, who are dying and wont live more then a few months, i have to show up.

Stone · 02-23-2005, 11:14 AM

One of the priducts I sell is Life Insurance and LTC ( long term care) so I am CONSTANTLY having these types of conversations with people. The best way to go about planning your death, funeral, estate ect. is through a LIVING TRUST it can't be contested or go thru probate.

Star · 02-23-2005, 12:05 PM

I am ashamed to say, no I haven't talked about that to anyone that really matters, like my husband and i KNOW I should because i do have some wishes.

I did have this kind of conversation with my sister in law last week though. I told her some of my wishes and she told me some of hers.

You'd think that I would've done this a long time ago since I did lose someone so young, I know life is short, but I hate talking about death. I'm so scared that if i start talking to hubby about this kind of thing that it will wammy us and he or i will die. I want to be cremated and hubby doesn't even know this. I do need to talk with him about this very soon. I don't even know if he wants to be cremated or not! that's bad!

Merika · 02-23-2005, 12:17 PM

As SH pointed out....it's really important for people to make these decisions early and make them together as a family.

We (parents, brother and my oldest son) discussed who is going to be buried where, what type of funeral, who is taking charge as 'Executer of the Will' for each person involved and how we individually feel about being atificially sustained due to an accident or illness. We put it all on paper...so when the time comes we have to deal with it....emotion won't get in the way of following out a person's wishes.

People assume if something happens to them...either a spouse or direct family member takes the assets. As Heather knows....it's much more complicated than that. What if several people in a family were all in one car accident?

It's sounds like a gloomy thing to discuss.....but it's less gloomier to discuss it while everyone is still around...than leave your kids to muddle through it later.

Duke · 02-23-2005, 07:32 PM

My mom wants to be cremated <sp> and I'm not sure about my dad.

Luba · 10-09-2005, 05:13 PM

My husband and I have our Wills and Living Wills done as well, big load of my mind! We had our Living Wills done even before the Terri Shiavo case. I think they are as important as the regular Wills. It does take away the painful decisions that children have to make in difficult times like those...

Duke · 10-09-2005, 05:19 PM

I don't have a will, but I do have a way

Merika · 10-10-2005, 08:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Duke

I don't have a will, but I do have a way

I have a way to make sure you need a will.

Luba · 10-10-2005, 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Merika

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Originally Posted by Duke

I don't have a will, but I do have a way

I have a way to make sure you need a will.

Stone · 10-10-2005, 12:09 PM

Rember Wills can go thru probate living Trusts do not so when It comes to assets Trusts are better and cost pretty much the same amount of money as a Will does

darkangelism · 10-10-2005, 12:17 PM

what? can you say that in english...i mean im a business major and i didnt understand.