fairness with friends

darkangelism · 01-23-2007, 10:41 PM

i think i might be misplacing anger on people that dont deserve it, or maybe im thinking correctly. The situation is that me and some of my friends and their friends are in a fantasy basketball league, in which i am winning and the person that started the league is in 2nd to last place, he tries to trade his worst players for the worst teams best players, which would give him a chance to beat me, but it isnt a fair trade and the members of the league veto it, he then changes the rules so we cant veto the trade so that he can win unfairly by cheating, i feel that it says something about his personality that he is willing to cheat because he cant win fairly or lose and not care, after all its just a friendly league, or i should let it go for the same reason, however i feel that due to the fact that he is friends with mym friends we could end up in business at some point and that if he feels like he wont get what he wants he will cheat, lie or steal to get it.

So i have become a complete and utter pain, just bashing him constantly and am totally willing to push it as far as possible, even if i lose some of out mutual friends in the process that side with him.

Vautrin · 01-24-2007, 07:38 AM

Bashing will not accomplish anything. Better to refrain from speaking your mind.

A lot of people are involved, and I don't think they would consider this cheating fair either. What is worrying me however, is: if he is willing to cheat in a friendly game like this, how would he be in business (warranty issues for example)?

darkangelism · 01-24-2007, 09:42 PM

it has been worked out, he has agreed to redistribute the players fairly that he got to everybody. i apologized for some of things i said to him.

Vautrin · 01-24-2007, 10:19 PM

Good to hear that everything was resolved.

darkangelism · 01-25-2007, 09:32 PM

yeah, though i dont worry about friendships anymore, i am really good at apologizing and people cant stay mad at me, its like i have friendship invincibility,lol

Duke · 01-25-2007, 11:44 PM

Too bad you can't find a way to project your friendship invincibility to women, then your dance card would always be full.

TKDLady · 01-26-2007, 10:13 AM

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Too bad you can't find a way to project your friendship invincibility to women, then your dance card would always be full.

Very well put!

darkangelism · 01-26-2007, 11:28 PM

well my current problem with women is that i dont meet any, im not going anynwhere to meet them.

Luba · 01-27-2007, 10:27 AM

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well my current problem with women is that i dont meet any, im not going anynwhere to meet them.

How about the local A&W?

I'm sorry, DA, didn't mean to be flippant, just posted the first thought that came into my head. Our local A&W has a lot of nice girls behind the counter....

How about Starbucks or coffee places? They seem to be very popular in Canada for up-scale nice young women...(of course, that's why I'm not allowed in the door)

Vautrin · 01-27-2007, 10:57 AM

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How about Starbucks or coffee places? They seem to be very popular in Canada for up-scale nice young women...(of course, that's why I'm not allowed in the door)

But only because Starbucks does not exist for 50+ years. Else you could be the symbol of what prolonged visits to Starbucks turn you into

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darkangelism · 01-27-2007, 10:09 PM

a&w doesnt exist here, and i hate coffee, but yeah i probably could go to places, i just dont, i basically spend my time at home, at work, at my parents, and a little at the bar.

Star · 01-27-2007, 11:52 PM

you know, i met one of my boyfriends at a corner store, another at a bowling alley and my hubby came to my door.

meeting people can't be that hard to do. everywhere you go you could meet people. even at the grocery store.

don't worry DA, when the time is right, you will meet that special girl.

darkangelism · 01-28-2007, 12:03 AM

i have a couple girls that i like, but i have a hard to trying to do anything about it, one is at work, and i have to be careful about what i say, the other is a waitress at the bar i go to...beyond that i barely talk to them...actually there was this cute cashier at the store today, but i was with my family and ddnt want to say anything.

Luba · 01-28-2007, 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by darkangelism

i have a couple girls that i like, but i have a hard to trying to do anything about it, one is at work, and i have to be careful about what i say, ... but i was with my family and ddnt want to say anything.

DA, you strike me as such a nice, kind person and you have no trouble posting your thoughts and feelings here...why is it so different in person? I know we all can't see each other online and that may make it more impersonal, but still we ARE people and think you are a very nice guy! May I ask why you didn't say anything to the girl when you were with your family?