Dealing with alcholic Faimly

[Stone]

I know several of you have had faimly that we're alcholics and wanted to get your prespective on a situation.

Greg's faimly are RAGING alcholics, they are beligerant drunks and often forget what happened the eveing prior. When they are not drinking they are so nice, understanding and loving people but after 5:00 ( happy hour) the devil comes out of them they are nasty, mean and unapproiprate. Every time I dine there I get an "apoligy call" the next day and I am sick of it.

Obviously Greg and I will not make it BUT I will be tied to him and his faimly forever and I really want them to like me. BUT I will not let my children be exposed to this behavior nor will I keep my mouth shut while they are insulting me drunk weather they forget or not. I do not want to be at war with these people but I will not accept this behavior.

[Star]

Gerry's family was like that with me for the longest time, until I put a stop to it.

When they insult you while you're there, do you stay or leave? I would leave immediately without giving them anything to attack me about.

I stopped going to the family get-togethers or their houses for years. After all the crap they put me through, the last time was the last staw. I stayed away for a good 6 years. They didn't see us at Christmas or any holidays. I also stopped drinking with that family a long time before I stopped going there. If I wasn't drinking at all, they couldn't blame me for anything right? that worked.

Now, I am going to the family events and only restarted doing that last year. They are careful now and know that they cannot treat me like their doormat anymore; I won't take it. They are nice to me and treat me with respect now and that's the way it should've always been!

The next time that they do this to you, just leave. The next day when they call to appologize, tell them it's not accepted and you will not put up with that kind of crap anymore and won't have your kids witnessing any of it any longer. Tell them their behaviour is unacceptable and you will not subject your children to this kind of example. Let them know that if they can't control their drinking while in your and your kid's company that you will not be going to visit them anymore.

Invite them to your house but make sure there is no alcohol. We did that and it did work. People don't overstay their welcome when they can't drink, especially if they're drinkers. this way at least the kids can interact with their grandparents. It'll be good quality time since they'll be sober.

It's not easy to deal with a family who is alcoholic. Believe me, I've dealt with Gerry's for the past 15 years. But, you can change that around so that it doesn't affect you or your kids. It takes some time and a lot of guts getting there though.

[Merika]

Being drunk doesn't excuse insulting anyone anyway. I am known to drink quite a bit sometimes.....and I've NEVER not known what I was saying or doing. Liquor is not an excuse.

I'm with Star....if they did that....I would leave.

BTW: GOOD TO SEE YOU....Star and I were worried about you since we hadn't heard from you.

[Duke]

Personally I'd distance myself from the ex's family, there's no real reason you need to be in contact with them regardless of whether or not he's the dad. When they ask why you choose to distance yoursel, tell them the truth. Also, it's a great excuse to say your not comfortable having your child in that kind of environment.

[Stone]

Originally Posted by Duke

Also, it's a great excuse to say your not comfortable having your child in that kind of environment.

I wish it we're that simple, they could ruion me in one snap of there fingers, this is why I just want them to accept me

[Stone]

Originally Posted by Merika

BTW: GOOD TO SEE YOU....Star and I were worried about you since we hadn't heard from you.

Thanks it's getting closer to April 15th so I am REALLY REALLY busy now

[Merika]

I didn't think about The Tax Day coming up shortly. I bet you ARE busy! I was afraid you had moved back to your parent's house and didn't have a puter there or something.

How could these people ruin you? (you don't have to post it if you don't want to....I know there are a few skeletons in the closet!)

[Stone]

Unfortunatly money is power and they have TONS of it... put it this way a SENATOR is comming to the baby shower they are throwing me :roll: he is Greg's dad's best bud they have lots of political & legal power so I must kiss arse for the rest of my daughters life..

[Duke]

Originally Posted by Stone

I wish it we're that simple, they could ruion me in one snap of there fingers, this is why I just want them to accept me

What do you mean by "they can ruin you"?

[Stone]

High Sicioty people are often Vindictive.

[Merika]

I grew up with money...and to be honest....when you have it....you really don't think about it. Only the people looking in think that your life is all different. Just be YOU and don't worry so much about what they think or do. They don't have any more power over you than you let them have.

[Duke]

I'd have to agree with Merika on this one, just don't tell her because I'll never live it down.

BTW, why do you care how they feel Stone? Isn't there enough pressure on you without adding something like this to the pile?

[Stone]

These people are nothing like that. They have ALOT of money and flaunt the crap out of it. In there eyes people who don't have money are pond scum. They bought me a PRADA diaper bag that cost 1,700 to cary poop in :? I would like to pawn it. Greg doesn't get crap from them because he refuses to kiss there arse, They only help those who bow down to them it's sick and disqusting.

They hang out with Politicians witch scares me if anything legal happens. they have Multi Millions and they know it there toliet paper probably had gold flakes on it.. it's sick actually

[Duke]

So kiss their arses for a while, put together a tidy trust fund, get to know their political connections and then make them kiss your feet.