Dead Beat Dad Rises Again

Merika · 05-15-2006, 08:33 AM

My kids had a rough weekend. Their retarded a$$ed dad invited them to his family reunion on Saturday. He leaves from his house at 2:30 pm (about 2 hours away) to come pick them up on Friday. He's a NO SHOW as usual. So they are sitting there all packed Friday night. Just two teenages sitting in the living room...wondering why they have a Dad who is a complete disgrace to humanity.

They finally reach him on Saturday morning and he ADMITS he stopped off at a bar and got drunk. What a complete LOOSER! To make it up to Jackson my friend Larry took him to go look for new lawn mowers and other guy interests. Chloe decided to call and go into work.

I felt bad for both of them.

I wish he would get smacked by a truck.

twinkle · 05-15-2006, 08:43 AM

Jeesh, that's an awfull situation, Merika. But they are old enough to know the type of person their father is. And you cannot protect them from him forever.

All I can say is it's his loss.

I hope your kids had a good weekend after all.

Luba · 05-15-2006, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by twinkle

Jeesh, that's an awfull situation, Merika. But they are old enough to know the type of person their father is. And you cannot protect them from him forever.

All I can say is it's his loss.

I hope your kids had a good weekend after all.

I SO agree! Wait until he gets older and the children don't want anything to do with him...like the sad story of my boys and their grandfather...

Vautrin · 05-16-2006, 01:11 PM

That is awful. sorry to hear that for Chloe and Jackson.

Hope it won't happen in the future.

Merika · 07-16-2006, 06:45 PM

We haven't heard from him since that last post I made on here. He called last week to say he was 'changing' and going into rehab for a year. He swears it wasn't a jail sentence, but I think it was court ordered. He said he would miss the kids. I reminded him they wouldn't notice he was gone.

Moron!

Star · 07-16-2006, 06:53 PM

you know, sometimes i think that kids are better off never knowing a parent like this. at least they don't have the repeated pain of being disapointed if the guy never comes around at all. to tell the kids he's going to be there then doesn't show up is uncalled for. poor kids.

Duke · 07-17-2006, 03:45 AM

I agree 110% with Star. As a parent, I have no idea how anyone can put anything in front of their children. As far as I'm concerned, my life was no longer mine when my child was born and she is my first priority.

Not only that, but she is my one opportunity to right all the wrongs I've incurred in my lifetime. I have this one chance to do something good with my life and I'll be damned if a shot of whiskey or a bottle of beer will ever get in front of that.

Of all things that happened and will happen in my lifetime, I want to lie on my deathbed knowing that I did my best with my child.

TKDLady · 07-17-2006, 08:07 PM

I am sorry your kids have such a looser for a father, Merika. It sounds like you have some friends who make up, to a certain extent, for his absence. That is great. Good luck for the future. Your kids have a wonderful mother so they should be fine.

Merika · 07-20-2006, 09:57 PM

I guess I should look on the bright side in that I've never had another parent who interfered or told me what I was doing with the kids were wrong. It's always been my personal call.

Not that I've always made the right call...but atleast I was able to make it without someone telling me I was wrong.

Paul · 08-03-2006, 12:33 AM

When I'm talking to my friend about his little girl and newborn son, it's always exciting because we discuss the things we want to teach our kids and do with them. He so happy because when he walks in the door now, his 18 month old daugther runs up, grabs onto his leg and yells "DADDY!!!"

It makes me look forward to being a dad, I honestly can't think of a better thing in the world.

Luba · 08-03-2006, 08:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Paul

When I'm talking to my friend about his little girl and newborn son, it's always exciting because we discuss the things we want to teach our kids and do with them. He so happy because when he walks in the door now, his 18 month old daugther runs up, grabs onto his leg and yells "DADDY!!!"

It makes me look forward to being a dad, I honestly can't think of a better thing in the world.

As I've mentioned in another post, you have a GREAT heart, Paul, and I think you would make an AWESOME Daddy!

Paul · 08-03-2006, 12:02 PM

Thanks Luba, I think Duke and I agree that it's the most important job in the world. I know it's not all roses and everything isn't perfect, but there are obviously some things you can do to make the experience a lot better for both you and the child. Duke is a good example of that.

Also my uncle, who spends a LOT of time listening and talking with my cousins has done an amazing job with them, they are so intelligent and well grounded, it's surprising. I dare say that when I was hanging around with them a few years ago, even though I'm about 7 yrs older, they were more mature then me.

That was an eye opener, I definetly know now that communication, patience and actually giving your attention to child, instead of pushing them away or only half listening, are major things you can do. To often I see parents who act as they don't have enough time for the child, just going "uh huh" whenever the kid is talking or telling them "get out of my hair, go play". You know what it's like when someone does that to you as an adult, can you imagine what it does as a child?

We were all kids once, why do we forget so soon and then turn around and do the same things our parents did that we hated?

There's also a time for discipline, you can't become a rug for them to walk all over and some semblence of order needs to be maintained, but you don't need to be a jerk doing it, or abusive. There's no reason why anyone should make their child hate them, you're dealing with a little person with a huge heart who picks up everything you do and emulates it. So ignoring a child, throwing bad habits and ill treatment into the mix, what do you expect when they start acting out?

All I want is to be a good father, I love my dad but it took a long time to get to that point. Even with my own imperfections it is my intention to do the things he didn't do and create a strong, healthy relationship for my children and I.

Luba · 08-04-2006, 08:46 AM

IMO, Paul, you are ready to be a Dad!

Paul · 08-05-2006, 03:47 AM

Oh no, not yet