Blast regarding his family - Page 2

twinkle · 01-09-2005, 05:11 AM

Try not to have too many prejudice against them. Some are just like you say they are, even worst, but some other are just charming and refreshing.

My trip back home... was weird. I think I should have spent some more time with my parents and my friends all alone. I arrived the 19th and my bf did the 22nd.

So on one side, everyone was caught up in their own little plans, Christmas at home but New Years's Eve with friends, cooking, cleaning up the houses, dressing up, etc. So, instead of staying with my friends (who already had plans) and catching up the lost time, I went to the mountains with my bf and showed him "the unhidden face of my country". A small resort in the North. We even had some snow, but most of the time we struggled with the poor services untill we decided to finally change the hotel and after that it was fine.

The friends I saw seemed more and more changed. With plans of their own. Very little things in common. And of course, Ludo's being there didn't help no one open up - he doesn't speak Romanian, most of my friends are fluen in English, you get the picture.

On the other side, I couldn't just tell him: "you know, all I want to do for our first Christmas together is for you to stay home and for me to go visit my family", especially since, for some very very strange reason, he seems to adore Romania

. On one hand, I'm glad he was there. My little piece of reality. My reality.

Anyway, the things I did see was that indeed my friends and the menthalities were evolving and I wasn't there to understand how. I just didn't like what I saw. Felt astranged.

My family was fine, more than fine, the only thing being that they generally put enourmous pressure on me. So it was great that I wasn't with them long enough to do that, but then I didn't spent that much time together either.

I was talking to a Croatian friend who has been in France for 2 years and she was telling me that when she goes home she doesn't feel Croatian anymore. Yet, she's definately not French either. I understood what she meant completely... People change. Everything changes. My country will soon (with God's help) enter the European Union. I'm sorry to be missing that... I think I have made my choices. Now I have to live with them.

So I guess, given the circumstances, it was the best I could have.

Samson · 01-09-2005, 11:31 AM

Thanks for the interesting insight into how being a "woman without a country" feels.

Ironically, having the distractions away from family that we discussed being of some benefit after your last visit seemed to have helped during this visit, yet complete satisfaction remains illusive. I can only blame what appears to be the missing element: consuming larger quantities of vodka!

twinkle · 01-09-2005, 12:32 PM

I think I kept on hoping to find home things people, places, like I've let them. HEl,, Samson, we even got Zara and Sephora. Surely you see the irony in it.

I think this time I got a bit wiser since I stopped expecting.

Maybe next time I'll just enjoy my country like I'd enjoy if I were visiting Turkey... Take things as they are.

I was talking to bluechocolate from LS abut this. His experience is totally different. Of course, the US does change, but I doubt the change is as quickly as an ex comm country trying to erase its past... IT's funny though.

My dad did give me some of his own "fire water". A true experience. Every time I offer it to my friends, it's an amazement to see them drunk after one and a half (little glass) of it

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Merika · 01-09-2005, 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Samson

I suppose my opinion of the French is so low, that I cannot imagine anything that might cause anyone to be ashamed of their country of origin (including Romania) around these cheese-eating surrender-monkeys.

Since Star is French CANADIAN and doesn't count in the above description....I'll admit it made me laugh out loud in a big way.

Twinkle.....GAWD....what DO they make those drinks out of? I've GOT to ge get to Rumania. Sounds like my kind of place!!!

Star · 01-09-2005, 02:21 PM

[quote="Merika"]

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Originally Posted by Samson

I suppose my opinion of the French is so low, that I cannot imagine anything that might cause anyone to be ashamed of their country of origin (including Romania) around these cheese-eating surrender-monkeys.

Since Star is French CANADIAN and doesn't count in the above description....I'll admit it made me laugh out loud in a big way.

lucky for him i'm french canadian and that counts me out!

Duke · 01-09-2005, 02:24 PM

French Canadians are even worse.

Star · 01-09-2005, 02:31 PM

Duke · 01-09-2005, 02:34 PM

lmao, I deserve it.

twinkle · 01-09-2005, 02:48 PM

I'm inlove with a French man, so I think that says a lot for them 8) !

Well, Merika, in Romania, almost each man has his own little production of "tuica" (our own version of vodka) and wine. I've offered some to Ludovic's father and told him about my little "innocent" game with my friends. He told me that in French, they call it "liqueur d'oreiller" (pillow liquer: you drink it and then you go to sleep).

Samson · 01-09-2005, 03:39 PM

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I'm inlove with a French man, so I think that says a lot for them

For me it actually says more about Romanians. :wink:

Duke · 01-09-2005, 03:56 PM

twinkle · 01-09-2005, 03:56 PM

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For me it actually says more about Romanians.

Could you be more specific, please? I'm soo curious to hear this one :slick: !

Duke · 01-09-2005, 03:57 PM

He's complimenting you for being able to actually put up with a Frenchman.

twinkle · 01-09-2005, 03:59 PM

Or stupid for going out with one

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Their cheese is grrreat, Samson! You should try it sometime

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