unsure about relationship

Raven · 05-16-2005, 11:10 PM

i'm in a relationship with a guy i met online that is 26. i'm 20. we've been together for 9 months and i'm thinking of moving in with him.i love him but i still have a few doubts about the age difference. i want to be more sure of myself before i do anything because he deserves it. ive talked with him and our friends and some family members of mine, but am still unsure. i tend to act like a kid sometimes because i don't think life should be so serious or that we should forget the innocence and fun of our childhoods. i am afraid he will think i'm not serious enough, yet i am when i need to be and sometimes when i should just let go...please, i need some kind of advice. i feel lost and unsure of everything except that i love him with my whole heart.

Duke · 05-16-2005, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Raven

i love him with my whole heart.

I really think this is all the answer you need. I don't know about your boyfriend, but most men are far more immature than their partners. It may be that you are as mature as most men aged 26 and up. Look how many geezers drive Porche's, Corvette's, etc. Many men are just big boys that may never fully mature, I may be their shining example in fact.

As far as your lease on life and attitude, don't sweat it. Consider it a gift that you don't take things too seriously and try not to lose it as you get older.

I think I'd have a lot more trouble if you were 16 and he was 26 but you're only 6 years apart, some of my friends and their spouses are 11 years apart.

Personally, I say go for it.

BTW, check your Private Messages, you have an official welcoming to this site PM as well as a topic in the "Welcome to Lifesupporters.com" area.

Ken

darkangelism · 05-16-2005, 11:57 PM

id say that if you are both willing to try it, then go for it.

Star · 05-17-2005, 05:52 AM

Living with somebody is a big step in a relationship and I think you're doing the right thing to think hard about it. I'm impressed that you're not jumping into it. If you feel in your heart and in your head that this is what you want to do, then go for it.