Teen Sex and Pregnancy

Duke · 07-17-2004, 07:14 PM

Facts in Brief has some great statistics concerning teenage sex. Give it a read, it's an eye opener.

Paul · 08-27-2004, 08:58 AM

wow great stuff, I can see where a lot of people I know fit into those catagories.

Duke · 08-28-2004, 12:36 PM

The tough part is wondering which category your child will fit into. I'm already worried.

Isis · 10-06-2004, 02:46 PM

I personally know a girl who is 16 and is 9 mos. and 2 wks pregnant. in fact i have known her since i was in the 4th grade. and over that corse of time she has changed. She was that girl that always told if you were doing somthing that you shouldnt or told if you didnt do your chores....but the year befor she got pregnant when she was 14-15 she started smoking and drinking and she became sexually active.

So now she is well over due to have her baby. She decided to keep the baby but she often tells me that she asks herself 'what kind of life is this baby going to have?" The baby's dad is under an arrest warrent and wont EVER be there for her OR her baby. Her mom who will be helpoing her take care of the baby is no better....so she is in a pretty tough situation and cant back out now...this kind of shows you how a teen can chnge within 1-2 years of her life.

I think that this is caused mainly because of wanting to keep this image of "Im willing to take chances" so she can keep her boyfriend or sometimes her best friend. I think that if rap artists and pop singers would stop singing songs about having sex, doing drugs, parting all the time and how they are ok to do, and put out positive messages then the number of sexually active teens may greatly decrease...

Duke · 10-06-2004, 06:56 PM

You know this is quite an interesting post you made Isis. I've heard before that movies, music, tv, video games, etc., can lead to unacceptable behaviour in people but the statistics have never been echo'd by the young. Sure you hear of some kid blaming Internet gaming for why he sprayed his classmates in bullets but by that time their message cannot be trusted.

This is the first time I've ever heard the message relayed from a young person who hasn't been affected but has friends or friend who has. I know I'm not comparing apples to apples here but I hope you see my point.

Do a lot of your friends echo your concerns about what media is doing to our youth?

BTW Isis, great post!

Isis · 10-07-2004, 02:44 PM

Usually no, my friends and i are sometimes afraid of what people might say if we say somthing about a song and if it would affend someone if we started saying that certian songs such as "Tipsy" or "Freak-A-Leak" are giving out wrong messages.

People start thinking if you talk about a hip hop song then you are dissing their culture or what ever and that can start BIG problems and may result in you getting punched in the face.

But some people i hang out with have no problem saying "I dont like this song" but they never have a reason they dont like it. And Part of that is the fear of loosing a reputation....and in a generation today when Speaking your mind is somthing that you are pushed to do it doesnt make sense that if you say one wrong opinion then you loose your rep or even your friends..

Duke · 10-08-2004, 07:49 AM

Unfortunately, I think that many of the friendships made in school up till the time we graduate are very shallow relationships indeed. You're essentially lumped in with a bunch of people through the course of your entire youth (if you remain in the same community) or thrust into the middle of a previously established school community. The general population actually knows each other and have since they were in kindergarden or earlier.

Fitting in a new school community can be tough, even fitting into one you've grown up a part of can be tough. Kids jockey for position constantly on the population scale of life and don't care (or aren't aware) of who they hurt along the way.

College and University are much different simply because everyone's a stranger now.

Ayla · 10-08-2004, 12:53 PM

I'm the ripe old age of 23, but if I think real hard I can recall my years of walking the halls of my high school. It's TOUGH being a teenager.

Being popular isn't always a good thing, IMO. Once you reach that level you'll do most anything to stay there. I watched girls become sexually active and experiment with drugs just so they could remain "tight" with the popular kids. If they went out with a guy from that circle and didn't "put out" they were quickly busted down in the social world.

Myself, I floated around all the circles. I was popular in high school, but on my own terms. I was 18 before I lost my virginity and that was after a long term relationship that I felt comfortable in. I was friends with the band nerds, the eggheads, the jocks....everyone knew me and love me. But then again...how could they not?

Duke · 10-08-2004, 11:04 PM

I think it's tougher for girls in school than it is for boys from a pressure standpoint.

Merika · 10-12-2004, 07:28 AM

Now that's an interesting thought Duke....I really thought it was more the other way around.

I think part of it has to do with self confidence and circumstances. My Mom was a very popular high school teacher (I had her for three years myself when she still taught German) and we actually hung around with her or at my house as teens. I got in very little, if any, trouble and never felt the pressure to do otherwise.

Pot was the only thing going. Since I was allergic to it.....I was pretty safe.

Duke · 10-12-2004, 07:34 PM

No boys really don't experience much difference during school than they do during the rest of their lives. We're genetically programmed to hurt ourselves and don't pay too much attention to what others think because we're too stupid to understand what they think once they tell us. There is some social status over who's the strongest, who's the most agile, who's this, who's that. Once those borders are established you just try and fit in without drawing too much attention to yourself.

Animal · 07-23-2005, 03:49 PM

my sister got pregnant when she was 18 and had an abortion. when i found out what she was going to do i thought i would hate her and never talk to her again. i think that if you are sexually active and able to care for a child then it is extremely selfish to abort the kid for no reason. but it turned out that i didnt hate her for it. it was her decision and i guess she just wasn't ready,,,