Loser is kicked out!!

Star · 05-26-2006, 04:57 PM

yey!!!!!!!!

Krystal called me today crying and all u0pset and not confident in her ability to be a mother after she kicked the loser's sorry arse out of her apartment today. She asked me to come over there so I did. I was there for 2 hours.

I had a good heart to heart talk with her and reassured her that she is an awesome mommy to brooklyn and she's doing and awesome job with her. I told her she can do it on her own and that most of us have been there at one point or another. I told her that when her father died, i was left with no food in the house, no diapers or money but I got through it as she will.

His boss stopped by and krystal told him that he doesn't live there anymore and that he left her with no money and no food so he hands her 50.00. I took her to the grocery store so she can buy diapers and food for herself. helped her clean up her place a bit and drove her and the baby to her friend's house.

While I was there, the loser came back 3 times. all 3 times i told him he isn't coming in and if he continues, we're calling the cops. the apartment is in her name and her name only so, the cops would remove him. he came back with his mother and called me every name in the book so i was so angry that i was screaming obsinities at him through the kitchen window. told the mother to come in and gave her 2 garbage bags full of his things and told her to tell her idiot son that he can make an apointment to get the rest of it. her and i got into it also. I told her her son is nothing but a control low life piece of crap and told her that THIS is what i was talking about at the hospital that she didn't seem to get.

She then preceded to make excuses for him and cut krystal up so i shut her up quick by giving her the bags, telling her that her son will have to go to court for visitation rights and child support. she told me that he pays child support for his other kid which i know he doesn't and told her i know he doesn't. told her he's a dead beat loser dad and to make sure he stays away from krystal.

she left, he left then we locked all the windows and doors and left too.

I told krystal that she allowed him to control her. told her, him and his mom that all HE did was alienate her from the people she loves and loves her and that's stops now.

I just wanted to beat his arse. the guy's a loser thug not worth the crap at the bottom of my shoe. god i don't think i ever hated anyone so much as i do him.

I'm so happy that he's gone!! I told krystal that i will be there to help her if she doesn't go back to him. she doesn't love him. she was using him for extra money. told her she doesn't need to do that. not worth it.

God he's gross!!

Vautrin · 05-26-2006, 07:09 PM

The hard part is of course preventing this guy and Krystal from getting back together. Hopefully Krystal can stick it out, and get rid of him.

darkangelism · 05-26-2006, 09:30 PM

yeah well hopefully he stays gone, and she finds a good guy, cause then she would have a positive influence to turn her life around.

Star · 05-26-2006, 09:42 PM

I don't think another relationship is what she needs. I think staying alone with brooklyn will give her more self-esteem and self-confidence then getting another guy. she needs to know that she can do this on her own and that she doesn't need to settle for anything less then what she deserves.

She's got a lot of family that would help her out, as long as she's not with him. She wouldn't completely be alone in this at all. This guy took a LOT from her inner self. my strong willed daughter turned into a puppet on a string with no self worth at all.

All i can do now is be hopeful and help her through this. be her rock so to speak. He's done a lot of damage to my baby girl.

darkangelism · 05-26-2006, 11:59 PM

ok, yeah that makes sense.

Vautrin · 05-27-2006, 03:51 AM

Sadly, "does not need a relationship" does not always mean "does not pursue a relationship", or "does not get into a relationship."

Hopefully she can focus now on Brooklyn. And her own life.

Merika · 05-30-2006, 08:05 AM

I wish I had a video of you cussing at him thru the kitchen window.....

I thought I was the only person who did stuff like that. It will be messy since they have a child together but if she holds her ground she should be able to move on from this to have a life away from him even though he will get visitation.

Star · 05-30-2006, 08:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Merika

I wish I had a video of you cussing at him thru the kitchen window.....

I thought I was the only person who did stuff like that.

LMAO!! You know, as I was doing this, I was saying to myself "you're more mature then this. You're putting yourself down to his level. You sounds like a complete idiot to the neighbours and people on the street" but I didn't care. His mother came in and told me why i did what he does. i told her to shut the F up and to stop making excuses for her low life peace of crap son. She's so scared of me it isn't funny! She's lucky i'm a law abiding citizen and don't hit anyone because if this was back in the 80's when it was allowed by law, she would've got more then a slap if you know what i mean.

I can get very fiesty. especially when it involves one of my kids. I don't care who the person is, i'll get into their face if they're messing with my kids.

I don't know what's going on now. I know he was in jail for the weekend because his X told the cops that he hit krystal. krystal says he didn't hit her. I haven't talked to krystal in a couple days because I was sicker thena dog on sunday and yesterday my training started. Hopefully i'll talk to her this week and get the scoop on things. I hope to god she didn't take the arse back in. I told her that if she does, my help stops. I do nothing for her in way of helping.

Time will tell.

Vautrin · 06-01-2006, 12:28 PM

I know it has only been a couple of days, but any news about Krystal, and the situation?

twinkle · 06-01-2006, 06:29 PM

Dearest Star,

Know that in these trying times you are more dear to me than all my frinds ever were. You are sooooo much like my mother, there's nothing ever on this Earth like a mother's love, a mother's strength, a mother's fury...

I hope for krystal that she remained strong and kept her ex away from her life.

I am also very happy to hear your training's about to start, make the best of it!

Star · 06-01-2006, 08:42 PM

thank you twinks. right back at ya! :wink:

unfortunately, it didn't last. she's going to take him back i'm afraid. this is what she told kass today. i told krystal yesterday that if she does take him back, my help stops. i mean it too. I refuse to help her with anything if he's in the picture with her. he wants to be in the picture, then he could be the man.

maybe the next time around she'll keep him out. until then, things will go back to the way they were with me and her. talk on the phone when he isn't there. nice huh?

giving her space like this isn't what she wants and i know that. she hates not seeing me or talking to me regularly. I predict that within the next couple of years is when she'll have got rid of him for good. could happen this summer when she comes into her money and doesn't feel like she needs him for financial reasons. who knows. when that time comes, i WILL be there with open arms.

Merika · 06-04-2006, 10:40 PM

could happen this summer when she comes into her money

Could this possibly be why he is sticking around even though he has got to know she doesn't want him around?

Star · 06-05-2006, 05:18 AM

I wouldn't put it past him and don't doubt it at all. there isn't anything i could do about it. this is a lesson she has to learn on her own. I've done my part and talked to her several times about this money and what she should do with it. the rest is up to her.

she took him back. i talked to her on the phone yesterday and heard him in the background. :x

Vautrin · 06-05-2006, 05:22 AM

Sorry to hear that Star. She has to learn this on her own.

Hopefully you are right about your prediction, that she will get rid of him in the next couple of months.

Merika · 06-08-2006, 07:26 PM

Chloe has some money coming when she turns 18 from a dog attack that happened when she was 6. It's supposed to be for college but she'll probably blow it on something stupid too. I guess all we can do is look back to when we were that age and we thought we were all smart and knew everything too. When the truth is...we were dumber than dirt.