Daughter is dating again

[Star]

My lovely daughter Krystal has a boyfriend now. He's a boy she grew up with in grade school and dated for a little while when she was 13. I didn't really like him then, he was a bit of a troubled kid but now he seems to be OK. I seen him quickly the day that Krystal came back home (he brought her home) and he seemed very respectful and clean!!!! I liked the first impression I got. He's apparently not getting himself into anymore trouble, is in school and seems to be very good for and to Krystal. He came in that day and held her baby (which impressed me). The best part! He doesn't wear pants down to his knees!!!!!!!!!

Today, he took Krystal and Kassandra to the mall and Wallmart shopping. He bought krystal pajamas, socks and hair dye. That's on top of buying her a birthstone ring and bracelet for christmas. I told her that he's a keeper! :wink:

I told her that we'll have to have him over often so her dad and i can get to know him better. She says she's afraid because we're "weird" so I told her that every family is weird. we're no exception and I wouldn't do anything to embarass her. I'm so happy that she's got a boyfriend that doesn't look like he belongs in a gang or a rap signer. I think this boy can be a very good influence on her. this could be a very good thing.

[Merika]

I know how you feel. Everytime Isis has a new boyfriend....I hold my breath. GAWD KNOWS who she may become attracted to.....for any retarded reason. Thus is the life of a teenage girl.

I was a year ahead in high school. I had a great boyfriend by the time I graduated. My choices were to stay home, get an apartment with my girlfriend or to get married. My parents pushed for me to marry. Years later I asked my parents why they let me....because I was SO young. They said because he was such a nice guy....they figured I would be safe until I divorced and was older and less likely to pick an A$$hole!

They were right. It probably saved me. The marriage didn't work....but we have a great child together and are still the best of friends. He jokes that he raised me without my parents having to pay child support. HAHA!

[Star]

so afraid as to who she'd start dating when she decided to date again. 8O I'm happy it's someone decent and clean looking!!!

My parents didn't like all the guys I brought home. I went for the "bad boys" because they were the coolest and the cutest. :roll: Out of all the boyfriends I've had in my life, they only liked 2 of them. they adore my husband and my first love. the others they couldn't stand. I don't know why not because I didn't have not 1 boyfriend who treated me badly. they all spoiled me rotten and were very respectful with my parents when they saw them. Maybe it was their long hair?? :wink:

[Stone]

I hope it turns out well and I hope you can also form a realtionship with this young boy, so he won't let her "stay out" like she likes to... Big Plus that he is buying her things deff a keeper but I am such a gold digger I probably shouldn't advise on that stuff :oops:

[Merika]

My Mom was a popular teacher at the high school I went to. She knew EVERYTHING abotu EVERYONE.....and it was a big high school. I ended up dating an older guy, but yet wonderful young man, just to keep her out of my business.

Since she doesn't do the online puter thing.....might I add....keeping her out of my business is STILL a challenge.

LOL~!

[Star]

had to update this board. :?

She's went through maybe 3 or 4 boyfriends since this guy. now she's with a 21 year old and living at his place with his mom. he seems really nice. i hate it but i like him. i also think he's having a positive affect on her where life and responsibility is concerned.

Since she's been with him, she's put herself on waiting lists for counselling and parenting classes. She got accepted for school starting in september yesterday and she's making her visits with erika every week. actually, she made that arrangement by herself also.

She seems to be in love with this guy and he seems to be in love with her too. she treats him a lot better then what i've witnessed with other boyfriends she's had. she seems to be more respectful towards herself and others now too.

teeny weeny baby steps but at least she's taking them. I'm just watching right now and going with the flow with her. if she graduates high school, her dad and i will be proud of her and we will let her know that by celebrating it.

the program she's going to start is work at her own pace so if she works really hard at this, she could graduate high school in 2 years. if she accomplishes this, i think she'll want to take her education further. it'll give her some confidence back. I'm hoping!

[Vautrin]

Of course you have to wait to see what happens in the future. But at least Krystal is making these steps herself. That is very encouraging.

Due to the past experiences with her, it is difficult to be positive about the changes she has made in her life, especially if you are a bit afraid that she might change her ways again.

And about liking her bf. It would be probably more scary if you did not like the guy, despite all your efforts to like him. And as long as they are good to each other, the most important thing is there.

[Merika]

Maybe she is finally maturing enough to understand that playing around with her life can have sad consequences. It's hard to get beyond 'the group' and realize that partying only takes you so far. I also think as Erika gets older.....K will want to be a Mom which isn't an embarassment to her daughter.

It may take awhile...but at least she is heading in the right direction instead of going backwards. I know you must be very relieved.

[Star]

I'm somewhat relieved but i won't be completely relieved until i see some actual results. I don't want to set my hopes up too high just to maybe have another huge let down and disapointment. I'm just sitting back and watching & listening to her for now.

[Stone]

So I take it she is not pregnant???