Parents Don't Understand Their Children's Behavior - Page 2

IvyRose · 04-27-2008, 06:25 PM

Our laws are different and so is our structure within our countries. My apologies. Our country was founded on the Judeo Christian Belief. With that belief, there are certain moral behaviors that our laws have been based on.

Promoting the usage of marijuana is considered wrong here, because in most states of the United States, it is illegal to use, carry, buy or sell. It doesn't make someone a bad person, but it is bad to use unless you like serving jail time.

In some communities, promoting the use of marijuana is just as bad as recruiting a band of Gang Members to perform a crime. So yes, in that reguard, you are judged on your appearance. Similar to whether you wear a blue or red bandanna, because that means you either belong to "The Crips" or "The Bloods" Gangs.

Where you see judgement on what Americans wear on the surface, we see it as organized crime. I'm definately not talking about what Gucci purse to wear here and how well you'll fit in with the in crowd.

How do teens learn what to wear matters to their friends? Haha, true, some adults love name brand clothing and pass the obsession on to their kids. True, adults gossip about other adults probably infront of their kids and pass on the idea that if you wear off brand clothing, you are ugly. (Of course, television, marketing schemes ect. can also be blamed.)

In the grand scheme of who taught who what, teens do come up with off the wall things that their loyal followers must act, dress, talk like in order to be in their clique. If you've ever heard an adult say, "I hated High School Games," you'd know that the teens made things so much worse than the adult friends we live around now do.

As far as wanting to be accepted by a group of friends, it has a lot to do with their environment, their emotional well-being and alas, human nature. People need people, it is in our design. How much we need them, for what things; often depends upon our emotional and mental status.

Even in the adult world, there is going to be a charismatic leader and a few loyal followers. Very few stand alone in a corner and if they do, they are often thought of as anti-social or have some mental dilemma.

Vautrin · 04-27-2008, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by IvyRose

Promoting the usage of marijuana is considered wrong here, because in most states of the United States, it is illegal to use, carry, buy or sell. It doesn't make someone a bad person, but it is bad to use unless you like serving jail time.

Apparently, up until the Great Depression Americans thought otherwise about marijuana. I'll see if I can find some online information about this deliberately hidden aspect of American culture. Thus it is a bit unlikely that the roots upon which the US were founded are the cause for the difference in attitude towards Mary Jane.

NoTargeT · 04-27-2008, 06:48 PM

Heh, it can be just as interesting as it can be hard having a discussion about things when the people here are from all over the world. I understand now that highschool here is near to uncomparable to highschools in the states. Funny thing is, here where use of marijuana is legalised (but not legal), you barely see people with black hoodies with the leave on anymore (I guess we sell more to foreign tourists, lol). My brother in law wears m, but he's not even using the stuff. yet again using alcohol is normal, evnthough thats a lot more physically addictive.

Scott · 04-27-2008, 10:50 PM

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I agree during those teen years kids will follow any opposite example, but I guess we had that too during those days. It usually passes though. But I do remember from being that age myself was the main reason for me to 'oppose the world' was because I started to notice what the (adult) world was really like...

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An adult could wear a wardrobe from Hello Kitty 24/7, but his kid will want to wear a Black Hoodie emblazoned with a marijuana leaf across the back.

Exactly. And who tought him that life is not about who you are and what you do, but all about how you look, how much money you have and where you spend it on? Isn't he simply wearing that black hoody with marijuana leaf because he knows exactly that that is what he will be judged by?

I'm not sure.

WHO DID teach him/her that "Life is not X, Y, Z, but about A, B, C?"

Very good question!

Whoever the hell it is, I'd like to wring their f***ing neck.

NoTargeT · 04-28-2008, 01:41 AM

Hehehe, well having read your other thread I see where you're coming from. And I agree things like mass communication and the internet aren't making things easier on parents. Both the good things and the bad things are so much more within reach of everyone now. And I'm not sure seeing all crap going on in the world and the net is doing myself any good either. Makes me wonder how civilized we are...

Scott · 04-28-2008, 08:01 AM

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Originally Posted by NoTargeT

Hehehe, well having read your other thread I see where you're coming from. And I agree things like mass communication and the internet aren't making things easier on parents. Both the good things and the bad things are so much more within reach of everyone now. And I'm not sure seeing all crap going on in the world and the net is doing myself any good either. Makes me wonder how civilized we are...

There is one component that we are very comfortably omitting in our insistance that children's behavior is a result of parents, TV, internet, schools, peers, drugs, etc. etc. etc......

What about the kids themselves? I mean, if two kids live in the same house with the same parents and go to the same schools on the same planet, even to the point where they EAT the SAME FOOD EVERY DAY, then why would one go completely off the chart bonkers, and the other be planning which college he would attend while he's in 5th grade?

IMHO, these personal discrepencies have always existed: Wally was fundamentally different than The Beaver. But the Depth and Breath of ways The Beaver could become entangled with poor decisions have increased exponentially since 1950.

Guarding against all the variables is a challenge that 1950's parents never imagined: Hell, 1990's parents never imagined!!! How many girls were "Cutters" in 1980? Who was on MySpace in 1994?

IvyRose · 04-28-2008, 01:26 PM

I think it's just easier to blame parents for things that kids do. Really, if you think about, especially if both parents work; the school and their friends are with them for the better part of the day.

Getting your child to finish homework, wash up, eat dinner and then go to bed; it feels like a rat race. Not quality time that you get for a whopping 2 days of the week.

There are parents that don't care, but the ones that do care outweigh the ones that don't. At least from what I've witnessed.

I guess if we could spend all day and everyday with our children; lock them in a box with us - no television, no music on the radio, no internet, no video games and no friends. Well, maybe our children would actually be responsible for their own actions.