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Originally Posted by PepsiChic
many kids are fearful of getting bullied if they dont "fit" in and have the same fashiom and dress sense as their peers.
bullying is a huge problem, many kids want the latest clothes and toys because other people in their class has them, and do not wanrt to be left out nor picked out for being "behind"
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Please stop reminding me of High School.
PepsiChic is 100% correct.
I didn't care about clothes until I got picked on. That's when I went the radical route and began dressing 'Punk.' It wasn't to shout out to the adults corrupting the world. It was to scare and mock the 'preppy' wenches that couldn't keep their mouths shut.
Women are in constant competition for some stupid reason. I haven't quite figured that out yet. It's not just over the opposite sex.
It made them feel good by putting someone else down. No doubt a direct reflection on how they have or were being treated by their peers. Preppy cliques were the worst. Of course, our year book was entitled "We're Rich," so you can imagine how material driven my school was.
I know why my Dad has to have the best in everything. He grew up poor and wanted he and his family to have a better life. He still likes to flash his money around and brag. He also hates people that have less money than him. He thinks all poor people are just lazy. No doubt, it also derives from his fear of having to live poor again. He and I argue about this all the time. That and politics. Oh heck, we argue about everything.
I don't talk to him much.
Why 'old money' likes to brag about their riches is because that's all they have to brag about. They usually have no other talents. I should know, I got paid to teach several of them Music by their parents. Oh boy, that was fun revenge having the outcast come to their mansions to teach them something they could not grasp.
Ahhhh... Fun times!
Edit: I wanted to add that we can blame campaigns and advertisements all we want to for telling us what we want to buy. What we want to look like, but the real bottom line is, they (the Companies) are preying on everyone's insecurities.
There are emotional reasons why people like material things. It's to fill a void that is deep inside of us. If the void wasn't there, we wouldn't jump for the next best thing. Although, this is not the general rule.
Why do boys and men love cool cars? There's several reasons and not all fit the general rule. Mid-Life Crisis just doesn't fit for everyone. Just the love of cars in general doesn't either.
Some girls love fashion, to the point of obsession. It's not necessarily a bad thing. Not all girls like fashion to be ubber hot and let all the other girls know she is. They like the cut, the hem, the fabric and have a genuine interest in fashion.
I know I'm vain to an extent. The degree of my vanity may be more or to a lesser degree than some. The only person I can blame for that is myself.
Most people don't know why they like and act how they do. Unless there is a problem to be addressed that has affected their lives, they continue to live on, not knowing what makes them tick or have any care as to why they like what they do.
Falling for advertisements, I can only blame myself as well.
Teenagers have hormones and insecurities that make them want to feel good. Adults are the same way, only during teen years, those wants are magnified a thousand times greater due to hormones.
Why are people mean to each other? The person that is mean or a bully is suffering in some way, either at home and/or social pressures of trying to fit in and find themself. The quest to find one's purpose in life and who they really are is human.
We all react and grieve differently than the person next to us. Some strike out while others remain silent.
I don't like blaming all parents for the time neglect issue. Parents have to work to provide for their children. Loads of children are ungrateful for this and don't understand why Mommy isn't baking cookies for them when they come home.
Usually, it isn't until the children become parents themselves that they understand the why's. So that just tells me, teens make up their own mind on a lot of things until they mature and learn more about life. (Some never mature though.)
I can only speak from personal experience, but the need to be over sexual and flirtatious stems from sexual abuse. (Not always, but for me, it was.)
It wasn't until it affected my life negatively that I tried to correct this. I slip on occasion, but so is the price of a lifelong habit.
I don't see labels on clothes as affecting someone's life negatively, unless they are discriminated against because of it and are subject to someone's violence.
Looks, Designer Labels and Young Girls
