I've asked my daughter...

[Duke]

...to try and get her friends to register here and discuss whatever they want in these forums.

I know it's a form of peer pressure, but it's a good peer pressure. BTW kids, there actually is such a thing.

Quoted from an article in La Pietra.

"Even though most people see peer pressure as all bad, there is such thing as good peer pressure. When teens depend on their peers for guidance, sometimes they do get the right answers. However, it is important to choose the correct friends. Teens with similar interests will mean, more time together. Also, friends who do well in school, have respect for others, and don’t do drugs, drink, or smoke can influence other teens to make the right choices. Groups, who influence others not to do those things, can join together and prevent bullying. This is an example of positive peer pressure. Friends can encourage each other to participate in activities or play on sports teams. Sports can help them discover who they are.

Positive peer pressure encourages helping each other with homework or projects in school. Friends who are active in the community provide an excellent role model. If friends are making the right choices, then so will the teen. Teens need to choose their friends based on the proposition that the person will help them to become a better person. If so, they should become their friend. Unfortunately, we only hear about the results of negative peer pressure. Sadly enough, there is more negative than positive pressure. There should be more exposure of positive peer pressure, so teens can see that it does exist and be encouraged to do the same."

[Luba]

I think there should be more written and spoken about Positive Peer Pressure, that would be such a great thing and bring such a change to all this Bullying going on!
It's sad that so much attention is brought to the bad things kids do, and not enough spoken or written about the good, hard working kids who are trying their best!

[Dwoing]

I do agree but the thing is Bullying is called Drama in my life so without DRAMA life would be Boring.

[Duke]

I think you have drama in your life Dwoingy because you are a Drama Queen. Isn't that correct?

Good to see you post though, how is the friend Peer Pressure, or Drama, working?

[Vautrin]

Dwoing, I have to say that I absolutely adore your "Sniper-kitten" avatar!

[Star]

Originally Posted by Dwoing

I do agree but the thing is Bullying is called Drama in my life so without DRAMA life would be Boring.

how old are you now dwoing? you must be at the age where girls are complete drama queens. My daughter's a drama queen too. :wink:

How do you deal with peer pressure at school? I'm curious as to how young kids today handle it. I know how my own daughter handles it but she's a little older then you are I think. I'd love to hear what you have to say about it.

[Duke]

I'm sure that she can elaborate more than I can but I can tell you that she's pretty unweilding when it comes to peer pressure, insults, bullyin and most of the more negative aspects of school life. She's been raised to have a bit of a thick skin and to do whats right for her more than do something against her will for popularity or acceptance reasons.

I'm curious to hear how she responds to this question though.

[Star]

I'm curious also although your description sounds like she's got it all covered well. She's a great kid!!!!

Kassandra's like your daughter. she doesn't give in to bad peer pressure at all. she's told me recently that some of her friends smoke and do drugs. she's told me that they've offered these things to her and she turned them down. she says that if they don't want to be her friends because she says no to drugs or smoking then they weren't her real friends in the first place. I was so proud of her when she told me this. Gerry and I did our jobs in teaching both our kids how to be this way and Kassandra actually practicing it makes me feel really really good.

Kassandra also will get in the middle of anyone that's bullying somebody. she'll stand by the person that's being bullied. That also impressed me because she figured out on her own that if she just stands by and watches this happen and do nothing about it, then she's just as guilty as the bully. She hates to hurt people (that's why the pantsing thing I couldn't understand her doing and it was so shocking!!!!) and will try to help anyone who is sad or hurt.

Kassandra is deffinately a leader. I hope to god she stays that way throughout her teenage years.

[Duke]

She is a great kid, just don't let her know I told you that

[Link_BaconBitz]

See, that's how kids SHOULD be. In school I always had a bad image of other kids, thinking they are all the same.. they follow the popular ones and help in their nasty ways. And it would make you think, if you tried to help whoever is bullied, you'd have the load of them after you next. I know not everyone is bad, but over the years I have seen some rotten stuff. I'm glad to there ARE good ones out there.

[Luba]

It was great reading about Kassandra and her views at her young age! She sounds like she will grow up to be her own woman; how proud of her you must be! To have an opinion about bullying is one thing, but to actually stand up to it like she is doing...wow!
What I've read in your posts, Star, you are a great Mother as well!

[Star]

Thank you luba. I think i've done a great job but i've also made mistakes along the way too. I am extremely proud of kassandra and the person that she is and I know that she will be an asset to society as a grown woman.

[Duke]

Being a good parent means that you know you made mistakes and can admit that to yourself and your children. Thinking your the perfect parent or just being indefferent makes you the worst possible parent and it's likely your kids will show you how rotten a job you did later in life.