BF isn't being supportive

[Cookie70]

I don't understand why my boyfriend can't be at least being supportive with me for ONCE? Everytime there's some mistakes I made, OOPS, then he'd get upset... treat me like crap! It makes me upset and feel MAD at the same time. I mean nobody is perfect and everybody is entitled to make mistakes in their lifetime, right? :roll: I swear sometimes if I could beat him up ya know to have him knock it off and stop being like that but I can't because he's way bigger than I am.

I've been trying to have my chin up, praying to GOD that everything will go OK for all of us (kids) and all. I rather not to say WHY or what's the problem was because its kind of personal and rather embarassing PLUS Im new here so I don't know anyone here. I just need to take out of my chest, I just can't take it anymore that's all. It's just like Im fed up with his crap, sick of it already. I know I should leave him but I'm afraid to leave him tho. I'm too confused with myself and don't know what to do :?: :? I'm just frustrated with everything with him. I've been supporting my kids and my lazy ass guy -- he WON'T go out to find a job. (I'll not go into that to tell you why, its pathetic anyway and I might tell later why he won't find job) anyway, it's just getting this little to get over my head. I'm really fed up with this and his crap. I feel like to scream I'm too tired I don't know what to do!!!!

[darkangelism]

Well first of all, welcome to the site.

Are they his kids, or just yours?

What kind of "mistakes" are you making that he isnt supportive of?

[Stone]

Ist of all welcome to the site and welcome to my life!! :? Your situation sounds extreamly similar to mine. When kids are involved we seem to put them infront of our own happiness. I do and I am miserable, at the age of my children they can't notice yet but in time they will and hopefully I will have cleaned up this mess I have made.

If you are the only one working he has NO RIGHT to judge or nag about a dammed thing!! I am courious to see his reasoning for not finding a job.. that isn't a good rolemodle for children. unless he is playing Stay at home dad but I doubt it. Get to the bottom of it with him. you need someone who will atleast HELp raise the kids or what is he good for?

In addition like I said above I truley know how you feel.. I feel like I am missing out on True Happy Love and am stuck with a SOB because he fathers my children.. who know's maby that love will be rekindled with us I doubt it. but something keeps me here. and I have knocked him on his arse before he is much bigger than I and it just made me look like an unstable psycho so as much as you would like to DON"T DO IT!! punch a pillow... I don't gather that you would just upset with him now. If you are feeling anything like I do I feel lonley, hopless and I keep trying to fix something that is broken with no help from the other person :? It's a strugle being in a relationship by yourself.

[Duke]

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On to your issue,

I'm not going to pass any kind of judgement on your boyfriend but I must say, unless he's injured or has some kind of disability that keeps him from being able to work, he should not be sitting at home or draining your resources. I know a few ladies who have been through this exact situation and it floors me that their mate can be so blind to the fact that it puts an incredible strain on the relationship. The fact that you have kid/kids does nothing to make the situation easier.

I've acted similar in one of my past relationships where I had little to no patience for my partner. In my case it was simply a matter of too much water under the bridge and now we're in a situation where we were staying together out of either convenience, or fear of being alone, I'm not sure which. This really was a sign of things to come and it was the reason break up became inevitable. I'm not saying this is what's happening in your particular situation but it's prolly a good idea to keep it in your mind somewhere.

My other thoughts were that it almost sounds as if there was circumstances between the two of you that sparked this behavior. If that's the case, it's prolly a good idea to examine what caused this kind of behavior and deal with the issue. To not do so will likely only result in greater frustration on your part IMHO.

[Weiser]

Short form. Smack some sense into him or dump his arse. You don't need that crap. What exactly is holding you back from leaving him? Living like that is not healthy mentally or physically...

Welcome, we were all new once. Heck I am still new, I just spam lots.

[Merika]

Glad you joined Cookie! Sorry I didn't see your post until later in the day. A variety of answers have been posted and I'm not sure I could add anything better. I'll look forward to your next post and getting to know you better.

[Star]

Hi cookie. one thing tht i would like to say is if you're the only source of income in the family, then what do you need him for?

if he's treating you like crap and disrespecting you so much and on top of that, not working and sponging off of you, then i don't see why you would allow him to stay there and continue the behaviour.

You deserve much better then that. you are worthy of a good loving relationship and one that will take good care of you as you will he.

are the kids his kids or someone else's kids?

[Duke]

I hope she comes back and updates us on the situation :?