People that deny a loved one has a problem

[darkangelism]

Tonight my best friend invited me to go drinking on wed to celebreate the end of the semester...later she told me that she doesnt want me to go because im "an alcoholic" i have drank maybe 10 times this semester, maybe once every two weeks, prolly less, definatly not an alcoholic...yet her Dad and i have seen it first hand, has finished a bottle of vodka in a sitting, but she doesnt care.


Another exampl is my Uncle who drank so much he had to have his hips replaced at 40 years olds yet my aunt says he isnt an alcoholic and insults her mother for drinking.

[Duke]

My dads an alcoholic. The one non-disputable, universal truth about alcoholics is this, there is no problem. Very few actually see the problem and they are the few that actually beat it. The rest sit in denial with a rotting liver. It's not a dependancy, it's a sickness.

[YellowLioness]

Yeah, my fiance is the same way. We almost broke up because he felt like he didn't have a problem, and that his actions were totally normal.
I know my limits, and I can't handle constant alcohol fueled outbursts.

I was like, "Well, if it's so important to you that you can't lay off the bottle, then you can leave and go back to your mom's house. Make sure you tell her why you're coming home to her."

To make a long story short, he is more careful with his drinking now. His mother still doesn't like me due to the fact that I don't put up with what she has. Ah well, I can't help being strong willed as I am.

My parents never drank around me, and so I never saw first hand what alcohol can do to someone's life until I experienced it second hand with my fiance.

[Star]

Alcoholics are in denial until they are ready to take the first step and admit they have a problem with alcohol. They will try and justify their drinking, try to create a reason to drink all the while denying they have a drinking problem.

Hubby's family all don't think they have a problem with drinking. They only admit to one that is an alcoholic, but the rest of them are not in their eyes. Truth is, they are alcoholics. The denying doesn't stop there either. Any crisis that comes up is better left untalked about and quiet. this way it doesn't exist.

This is all part of being an alcoholic. Once they admit the alcoholism to themselves, then everything falls into the reality of things.

[Duke]

The sad part is that most alcoholics never realize or don't care to realize that they have a problem until it's way too late.