alcoholism tests

[darkangelism]

i just took two online tests to determine id im an alcoholic, and i failed them both. Now the question is what will i do about it. I have no desire to stop drinking, and i drink for the wrong reasons but due to the fact that im depressed and hopeless i dont care if i am an alcoholic, which is even worse then being one.

[Vautrin]

You better get control over your drinking behavior DA. At least you acknowledge you are drinking for the wrong reasons. That is half the battle you face.

The thing you must realize is that alcohol is not going to solve your problems. It will aggravate them, even though at the time you drink, you are partly believing otherwise.

Alcohol won't solve your loneliness. If you are feeling lonely, and somewhat bored there are other things you can do, to stimulate your mind, and to further your career. Sure, you will still feel lonely at first, but is something which you'll soon forget, as you come to enjoy the alternative activities you pursue.
Alcohol is a depressant, and will make depressions worse, and not better. So as long as you keep drinking against the depression, you are fighting an uphill struggle you can't win.

It does not mean that you have to quit drinking, but you have to have control over your desire to drink. I know you can do that, DA.

[Star]

Originally Posted by darkangelism

i just took two online tests to determine id im an alcoholic, and i failed them both. Now the question is what will i do about it. I have no desire to stop drinking, and i drink for the wrong reasons but due to the fact that im depressed and hopeless i dont care if i am an alcoholic, which is even worse then being one.

you ask what you will do about your drinking problem and in the same breath you say you have no desire to stop drinking.

this is serious DA. You're 21? years old and have a drinking problem already. You're very young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Think about what's important here. You can mess up your whole future because of alcoholism.

Vautrin is right when he says that alcohol is a depressant. A depressed person such as yourself shouldn't be using alcohol as an escape. It will bring you further into an even deeper depression.

The first step is to admit you have a drinking problem. The next step is up to you. Only you can stop your drinking problem; nobody else can do that for you. Either you find an AA (they're everywhere) for support and learn how to live life without alcohol or change your lifestyle so that alcohol doesn't play such a big part in it.

This is very serious DA. This can ruin your future.

[darkangelism]

yeah i know alcohol is a depressant, but i know that it takes a bunch of drinks b4 it makes me sad. Anyway, i didnt go buy more beer tonight, like i was going to, and im not drinking again until september. If i can do that, it means im still in control.

I think what bothers me the most is the fact that i dont care that much that i am an alcoholic, im just like oh well. Partially cause all my cousins are alcohlics too, most were when they were 18.


The other reason why i dont think its so bad is that the tests said if i had 4 of 10 conditions i was an alcoholic and i had exactly 4.

[Vautrin]

4 out of 10 means you have a reasonable chance to take control of the situation. With 10 out of 10 that would be impossible. You are a borderline case, and you better make certain that you are on the correct side of the border.

If you can indeed stop drinking until September, you are in control of the habit. But still, it would be wise to lessen a bit when September comes around again. You have no need for Dutch courage, DA; but need for real confidence. Again, look at how much you have accomplished and consider the disadvantages you have overcome to get this far.

[Duke]

This is just another example of your self-destructive behavior da. I hope you know that you are your own worse enemy, which is why you have no confidence, no allure, and no girlfriend.

For the life of me I can't understand why it's so hard for you to pull it together. We've literally got thousands of posts here in regards to how you're doing in life since you joined up and I don't think you've made an ounce of progress since day one.

You seriously need to take stock of your life and start dealing with all the situations that are handicapping you and your abilities. I would start right from childhood and work your way up to where you are now and don't glaze over anything.

I'm not sure, but you indicated a relative molested you at a young age. I don't know if this was your first "bad thing" but if it was, start there and deal with it. Once you feel you've safely removed that skeleton from the closet, then move onto the next thing. The entire process may take years to accomplish so don't get lazy and give up.

Just so you know, I'm still dealing with some of my demons and this site is part of the purging process that I believed was necessary to help me through it. The best thing I've done is heeded some of the advice posted here by some truly great, knowledgeable, caring and understanding people. I encourage you to do the same.

I’m sorry da, but the time is rapidly approaching where you have to pull your head out of your @ss and start working on these things. Like it or not, your on a voyage to self-destruction, not self-discovery like you should be.

Of course I know that my above response sounds ignorant but I’m starting to believe that this is the only way to get through to you buds. You really need to lift your hands, put them over your ears, and give your head a good shake. Anything else isn’t going to do an ounce of good.

Please da, I’m begging you, start dealing with your problems instead of continually hiding behind something.

[darkangelism]

yeah i know. I just have no drive to change. I dont believe that i can. I dont think i have made any progress in more then just on here, i dont think i have done anything in 5 or 6 years. I know exactly which incident in my life brought me to this point, a girl that didnt like me and it destroyed me, because she played games with my head and almost got me expelled from school.

[Vautrin]

First of all, anyone who plays head games, is not worth much thought, nor consideration. It could have ended up much worse, in it that you would have become a couple with that girl. Be glad that it did not happen. Imagine that, for a while. You would have ended up much worse.
I had it happen to me that a girl played head games, but overcame my outright frustrating experiences. A year later, fate smiled down on me.

Second of all, it is not the only thing that happened in your life. You have overcome many hard situations, and there is no reason to let your life be defined by outside events, even though they have been terribly hurtful. You are better than that, DA; you are more than the sum of past events.

I realize that change is hard to accomplish. There is some truth in the thought that happiness is a habit. In short: if you do things of which you believe that they make you happy, you will become happier.
It is hard to change thought processes, as you well know. But don't focus your thoughts on past events, especially the hurtful ones. Think of the the present, think of the future.

[Merika]

You can ask yourself this.....are you drinking because you like to party, because you are bored or if it's a means of getting attention?

The first one is normal...especially given your age group.
The second needs to be addressed by you.
The third one probably needs to be discussed with a therapist. Some people DO drink as a cry for help.

I don't know if you are an alcoholic or not....with each person it's relevant and I probably wouldn't put too much at stake from an online test. However, if it's worrying you....then stop it and assess while you are drinking (as per the above) before you drink another drink.

[darkangelism]

when im at school, its a social thing...this summer its been that im bored and depressed and it was an easy way out.

[Duke]

If you know this then why is it that you can't change it?

[Luba]

DA, I have been on this site for a very short while, I'm more of a Mother-like figure and since I've been reading so many posts and learning how everyone feels about certain topics I feel I know this about you:
You aren't hiding your problems, you're opening up about them, which I think is very good and positive.
The people on this Web-site care for you very much!

Maybe you care too much about having a girlfriend, when you have the best friend you have already, namely You!
If you only looked inside yourself and see what amazing wonders are there! Maybe write down your best qualities and really look at them. I don't even know you yet, DA, and already know a positive and wonderful quality about you and it's your honesty about your problems. Do you know how hard honesty is to find nowadays?
People here are trying to tell you what a valuable person you are, please include me in that as well!

[Animal]

I would LOVe to take that test, both of my parents are alcoholics, so i think its like a 3% chance that i won't be one.... i dont drink alot and actually i stopped drinking even tho my friends did.... so i dont think i am but i would still like to take the test!

[Weiser]

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