Thanks Marika, I'm the author of that quote and it's a true represetation of how I feel.
I'm not saying it's wrong to hit. I do believe that many parents use it as an excuse to not fully understand the situation whether they realize it or not. I punish my child if she does something wrong but I don't need to hit her to do it. She knows my tolerance level and my thoughts and feelings on matters and she adheres to them very, very well. When she pushes me and I blast off (verbally and rarely) she knows she's done wrong and is punished accordingly. Every time the punishment ends though, I sit and talk with her about it. In fact, often I won't even wait to explain my reasoning to her and do it right away.
Of course every child is different. I've just found that mine responds very well to punishment with ample communication.
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