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lewsterrett · 05-18-2008, 08:29 AM

I dont know for sure if her friend is in fact advising her on what to do. One thing that the pastor brought up was something that I forgot about. My wife had gastric bypass 2 years ago when she weighed 425lbs. She was terribly depressed and there was nothing I could do. I found a job which had a benefit coverage where they paid fir the surgery. I was horribly underemployed taking a pay cut. She had her surgery and is now about 210lbs. One of the items that she had to follow through was counselling becuase of this type of thing. The person litterally becomes another person. She has also had 2 back sugeries so by taking pain medication on a dangerous level for years she asked Jesus to break her addiction to those too. One of the things she told me was that the turning point of our marriage is that she no longer took a pain pill when she felt pain in our marraige. I dont know what to do becuase I feel like telling her all of this but she wont speak to me. She also a year ago she didnt work but we needed the money. I got her a job where i worked and it helped. I then found another job where i got back to the level where i was before. She stayed there making about $12/hr. A month ago she was offered and got a job in he same industry making nearly $87k a year. She made mention that she no longer needs me. This was suppoded to be our golden time of life where we got to where we wanted to be years ago. We were supposed to travel to israel and do many things we never had the money for. I have been in prayer sttruggling with God all over this. Everyone tells me that if she crashed then she is coming back to me. I dont know what to say about any of this. Im now on ambien to help me sleep and im sleeping about 7 hours now. for weeks i only slept about an hour or 2 a day. I felt like i was running on adrenaline i have anxiety. i had to get another cell phone so that i can talk to my brother since i was running up too much time on my company phone as she took my phone. I guess enough rambling. Im going to go to a church that she told me not to go to. She really respects these pastors. I feel i dont have anything to lose.

05-18-2008, 08:29 AM	#4 (permalink)
lewsterrett Casual Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: texas Posts: 30	Re: Day 17 I dont know for sure if her friend is in fact advising her on what to do. One thing that the pastor brought up was something that I forgot about. My wife had gastric bypass 2 years ago when she weighed 425lbs. She was terribly depressed and there was nothing I could do. I found a job which had a benefit coverage where they paid fir the surgery. I was horribly underemployed taking a pay cut. She had her surgery and is now about 210lbs. One of the items that she had to follow through was counselling becuase of this type of thing. The person litterally becomes another person. She has also had 2 back sugeries so by taking pain medication on a dangerous level for years she asked Jesus to break her addiction to those too. One of the things she told me was that the turning point of our marriage is that she no longer took a pain pill when she felt pain in our marraige. I dont know what to do becuase I feel like telling her all of this but she wont speak to me. She also a year ago she didnt work but we needed the money. I got her a job where i worked and it helped. I then found another job where i got back to the level where i was before. She stayed there making about $12/hr. A month ago she was offered and got a job in he same industry making nearly $87k a year. She made mention that she no longer needs me. This was suppoded to be our golden time of life where we got to where we wanted to be years ago. We were supposed to travel to israel and do many things we never had the money for. I have been in prayer sttruggling with God all over this. Everyone tells me that if she crashed then she is coming back to me. I dont know what to say about any of this. Im now on ambien to help me sleep and im sleeping about 7 hours now. for weeks i only slept about an hour or 2 a day. I felt like i was running on adrenaline i have anxiety. i had to get another cell phone so that i can talk to my brother since i was running up too much time on my company phone as she took my phone. I guess enough rambling. Im going to go to a church that she told me not to go to. She really respects these pastors. I feel i dont have anything to lose.