[TKDLady]

I feel for you I truly do. But you seem to be bashing yourself and punishing yourself. Telling yourself that you are to blame. It takes 2. She obviously has problems too. Start looking at her a bit more closely. I bet you will see that she isn't so perfect after all. I am not trying to be mean but I think you blame yourself for all that has happened but it can't be all your fault. If she had problems with anything she should have said something before it came to this. Where was the communication from her? Where has her mind been these last few weeks or months or however long she has been thinking about this? Just take in the whole picture not just your half. Take care.