its not selfish to want to spend time with someone you love. Ive spent a lot of time talking to you about her, and to her about you. and tbh she really seems to string you along
as for posting in the right or wrong place - Duke will catch up when hes got a minute and move the right part of this thread to another forum (probably adult issues -dating) and probably just move from your thread your post starting "i suppose i should add.." downwards. but i dunno.
for now dont worry! maybe you should give ashura some space, when she realizes your not around so much she'll begin to miss you.