That's a really rough call Star.
From experience, I can tell you that in the end the only thing which will matter is Erika and how she feels about her Dad. No matter what you saw or do or what she hears.....blood is thick. My daughter didn't see her dad for almost 6 years. When he showed back up....she immediately decided she was going to live with him. It was the worst 4 months of my life.
Eventually he's going to find out, Krystal is going to find out and Erika is going to find out. Trying to shelter your girls may only come back to bite you in the long run.
Then, not only will you have to deal with this idiot who has legal rights to visit your granddaughter, you may also have a granddaughter or daughter who is totally pissed off at you for keeping them all apart.
I would want to do EXACTLY what you and your husband feel is the best course of action. In the end though....it just may not work at all.
You knew when you make the choice to keep Erika that it was going to be a long road with lots of possibilities for heartbreak and hard decisions. It looks like you are already facing the first one. I guess all you can do is exactly what you HAVE been doing....let your love for the girls guide you.
I'm so sorry...because Life shouldn't have to be so hard when you are trying to do the right thing.
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