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Originally Posted by laki33
If she is not sure now that she want's to stay married how will she think in 60 days? I don't get it.
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I don't mean to make this situation worse for you, but it sounds like she's waiting to know whether she's going to enter in another relationship or not.
She doesn't want to get rid of you until she knows for sure if the other guy is willing to be with her.
Sounds like her new "text buddy" has put some ideas in her head about her marriage.
You mentioned her new friend was married too. Sounds like they are trying to figure out when to break off both marriages and be together. If her new "text buddy" decides he wants to save his own marriage, your wife is left out in the cold.
I've seen this situation hundreds of times in my life. It stinks, no one wins, and it's only bound to hurt the children involved.
If I were you, I'd tell her to piss or get off the pot. That's just me though. If she knows that you aren't always available for her to come back to, maybe her fantasy world of becoming a better person with someone else will vanish.
It does sound like she has a lot of issues to work through within herself. She needs to learn that no one can inspire her except herself. Sounds like she has some self-image problems.
She won't work on herself until she feels she has a problem, hun. It's up to you what you want to do at this point. You can't force someone to get help unless they want to be helped.
Having things that aren't in common have actually been said to make a marriage or relationship more exciting. Marriage Counseling has helped some people realize what true love really is and it isn't always romantic.
Sounds like your wife is caught in a fantasy world and romanticizing about what a marriage should really be like. We all fall of the horse at some point and shouldn't feel guilty about it. You kept your doubts to yourself, I'm assuming. Now that she has come out with her feelings, let yours be known.
I hope that you both can come to a solution and meet a Counselor. I'm not psychic, but if you're not sleeping, sounds like there are still some feelings there.
You're just going to have to wake her up somehow or let this other "friendship" run its course.