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Originally Posted by Vautrin
It does sound like some sort of affair is going on. As long as you don't fight for the Marriage, it will fall apart (because she will be busy with this new friend).
Doing nothing to address the issues is not an option. I think being firm and resolute is what is required. Be very clear with her what you want, what you don't want, and what you are willing to do. And what the consequences are if she does not follow through herself.
What is it your wife is complaining about, what has she done to try and address those issues herself? What have you done to address those issues?
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Well, we never argued a lot or anything like that. She did most of the complaining. She told me she want't someone to inspire her and that someone that makes her be a better person. I am so mad now, i want to buy some Tony Robinson inspirational dvd's and tell her to go ....herself. She thinks we just don't have much in common and some other person would make her happier. I am just mad she waited this long to say anything when i had my doubts too long before the kids. I would not have a problem breaking off this marriage it's a thought i will have to see her one day with another man that bothers me. I know i sound like a little girl, but this is hurting more then i would ever had thought so. I insitgated a "mutual divorce" and then changed my mind becuase she is not willing to give me any promise if she is willing to reconcile. She needs time and in that time while she is deciding our future i am suppose to sit and think what decision will she make? I told her that i wanted her and understand we both need time but at least give me some indication that you are willing to work things out so i can get some sleep.