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Samson · 12-16-2004, 07:45 AM

Thanks to all respondents, some of whom are more familiar with the depth and breadth of the tragedy (Diana, Barb) than others: Of course if I could wave a magic wand that would simply dissolve my marriage I would gladly do it, but its sort of like making a wish using the monkey's paw: While it will come true, it will only be at some terrible exacting expense that will cause great regret for ever having though of the wish.

For example, how much will I miss seeing my children every day? How much will I miss 30-50% of my income? Is simply not being in love with someone worth sacrificing these things? And finally, what could balance life without the love of another?

I've seen some use religion, multitudes of cats, 15 hour workdays, and liquor as substitutes, and of course, affairs to balance the wobbly wheel their lives have become.

Drinking mass quantities, cats, and religion make me ill to one degree or another. Maybe a second job would help me work myself into an earlier grave! I'm certain this would work well for Delilah.

Perhaps, like starvation, it is only a matter of time before a mouthful of maggots would be just as satisfying as prime rib? What a lovely analogy! Perhaps this episode of desperate necking is the first alarm: Exit before it gets REALLY BAD? Or, as Heather and Twinkle believe, it is just a fleeting, transient, and common occurrance for the aggregate population?

Star, I agree that affairs are just.....irresponsible. I don't want to leave my family on a basis of having fallen out of love with Delilah and in love with OW, but how do you force falling out of love with OW, then become divorced, then not fall back into love with the original object of affection? AND MOST OF CONCERN: What if transcience of conviction has prevented you from knowing whether or not OW will return your feelings? Ahhhhhh that damn monkey's paw again! Reminding us all to be careful for what we wish for.

Indeed, it is a tangled web..........This stuff of which life is made.

P.S. Already tried the counselling route: Miserable failure costing lots of $$.

12-16-2004, 07:45 AM	#10 (permalink)
Samson Banned (Perm) Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 842	Thanks to all respondents, some of whom are more familiar with the depth and breadth of the tragedy (Diana, Barb) than others: Of course if I could wave a magic wand that would simply dissolve my marriage I would gladly do it, but its sort of like making a wish using the monkey's paw: While it will come true, it will only be at some terrible exacting expense that will cause great regret for ever having though of the wish. For example, how much will I miss seeing my children every day? How much will I miss 30-50% of my income? Is simply not being in love with someone worth sacrificing these things? And finally, what could balance life without the love of another? I've seen some use religion, multitudes of cats, 15 hour workdays, and liquor as substitutes, and of course, affairs to balance the wobbly wheel their lives have become. Drinking mass quantities, cats, and religion make me ill to one degree or another. Maybe a second job would help me work myself into an earlier grave! I'm certain this would work well for Delilah. Perhaps, like starvation, it is only a matter of time before a mouthful of maggots would be just as satisfying as prime rib? What a lovely analogy! Perhaps this episode of desperate necking is the first alarm: Exit before it gets REALLY BAD? Or, as Heather and Twinkle believe, it is just a fleeting, transient, and common occurrance for the aggregate population? Star, I agree that affairs are just.....irresponsible. I don't want to leave my family on a basis of having fallen out of love with Delilah and in love with OW, but how do you force falling out of love with OW, then become divorced, then not fall back into love with the original object of affection? AND MOST OF CONCERN: What if transcience of conviction has prevented you from knowing whether or not OW will return your feelings? Ahhhhhh that damn monkey's paw again! Reminding us all to be careful for what we wish for. Indeed, it is a tangled web..........This stuff of which life is made. P.S. Already tried the counselling route: Miserable failure costing lots of $$.