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Originally Posted by MentallyStrong87
Well thanks for all of the support from everyone. I just feel like I can never move out only because of the circumstances, if I leave do they get better or worse? I don't know, and I can't count on it to be better here either, I worry about my younger sister, not just myself, and I can't leave her behind to deal with this, I'm much stronger than the rest of my family, and can deal with it to an extent, but much more could be the last string. Ya know?
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That complicates matters indeed. How old is your sister? How well do you get along with her, and can you openly talk to her about the situation at home?
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But I understand I need to do what's best for me you can't always help everyone around you, sometimes you have to help yourself before everyone else. And I'm the type of person who puts everything else before myself. But again, thanks for the help, public transportation is a great idea, but again, it will take some time to find a place to live, and I don't want to be in a shelter in this area, they are infested with drugs and such, which is not much better than the scene I am in now.
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That is a sad state of affairs in the shelter. Just spend some time looking for a place. It does not have to be the greatest, but as long as it fulfills your most important needs that qualifies.
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A friend of mine and I were talking about getting an apartment, but can I trust him to pay the rent always? It's questions like this that worry me. I can't depend on anyone else, and it leaves me alone and worried. Maybe I'm just over-worried, and worry about too many things that I have no control over. But that's just the nature of my personality. I feel like i have to help people, and worry about people I can't help.
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You can judge his reliability by his behavior. Does he borrow money, and then forget to pay back? Does he spend money the minute he has it? If you have scheduled a meet-up, will he be there at the right time, or phone in advance that he won't be able to make it? Or does he simply not show up?
Perhaps you do worry too much, but I think it is partly caused by the situation you are in.
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Like for instance; a friend of mine has this girlfriend who is attractive, and has a great personality. And we get along great but he is very controlling and has basically drawn her away from her family and friends. So she basically is stuck with him, for fear of no where to go. We get along great and sometimes I wonder if she had the chance, would she take it? But I don't want to be in the middle of it, so I just try to talk to her and understand her situation and just be there for her. She deserves so much better, and there is nothing I can do.
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Sadly you are right about that.
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But to reiterate the earlier, thank you for all of the support, sometimes it helps just to know people do care and listen, when those immediately around you do not.
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You are more than welcome here MS.