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Originally Posted by Luba
For me, too, IvyRose, I enjoyed it! 
I try to find a way to say something nice to a person, no matter how difficult they are to me...unless, of course, they have made a terrible judgment of me that I KNOW I'm not...then I don't try to fix it...how do you fix that anyway? But I do try to send 'silent blessings' so they would find happiness and contentment in their lives. It must be so difficult to live daily when one thinks the world is against them, and to die never having really lived! Sometimes we just rub a person the wrong way even if we didn't actually hurt them or have any contact with them. |
Ooooh, good point, Luba. You can't really fix how someone feels about you. Sometimes it is a problem within themselves. It is their problem, not yours. They are just projecting how they feel about themselves down deep inside onto you.
When you said, "It must be so difficult to live daily when one thinks the world is against them, and to die never having really lived!"
If someone lashes out at you and you've been nothing but cordial, you have to wonder what they're going through in their personal life and what they're dealing with.
I learned that too, but it took a long time to understand that it isn't always my fault when someone is rude to me.
Vice versa, if I'm having a personality conflict with someone else... If I stop and think why I dislike this person, even though we've had very little contact, I usually find that I am seeing a trait they project outwardly that I dislike about myself.
Some trait that I am battling to break the habit of or a trait that reminds me of someone that was rude to me in the past. It usually has very little to do with the person at all.