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I don't think that anyone that is extremely unhappy should remain in the marriage. If you're still there though, there must be some love left that you're hanging on to. Are there kids involved?

Being unfaithfull is something that I don't believe should happen. I believe that if a spouse is thinking of cheating, then he/she owes the other the respect of breaking it off first. A marriage that's in trouble is heartbreaking enough. Adding infedelity to it would make the pain worse. Guilt is added when there's infidelity involved.

Marriage is a lot of work. Whenever hubby and I fall into a "rut", I stop and think of what it was that I fell in love with him in the first place and decided that he was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. That usually helps me to work a little harder in fixing the problem that put us in the rut to begin with. Works for us.