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Originally Posted by tkdlady
Still don't feel sorry for her. That is probably part of the problem, too many people feel sorry for her instead of kicking her in the butt and helping her get her act together or helping her get some useful help.
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I'm not trying to make you feel sorry for her, tkdlady. I'm interested in understanding views other than my own, especially when they are held by many people. The way to do that is through an exchange of views in which differing opinions are accepted, not an attempt to persuade. I have a particular interest in this sort of topic as I sometimes work with people who have pressed the self destruct button and they are often the harshest ctitics out there as self hatred is at the root of their problems and their own and other people's understandable reactions to their excesses compound and maintain their problems.
For instance, I see that you equate the giving of sympathy with not giving useful help and the witholding of sympathy as being helpful. This suggests that you may think she deserves help. That puts a far more constructive perspective on what might at first sight may look like total condemnation. Of course, total condembnation may be on the cards too and people who behave like this (agreed, much may be media hype) have to learn to live with that, it's part of taking responsibility for themselves. But the condemnation is usually not as severe, long lasting and total as they imagine. If there is no hope of redemption, there's no incentive to change.