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Originally Posted by tkdlady
No bashing to you intended GG. I don't understand is all. What good is being skinny if you are dead. If the diabetes doesn't get them then the bulimia will.
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dont worry, many people dont understand these kind of things, you really do have to be a sufferer of something to truly gain understanding of something. Im not diabetic, but i have been bulimic for 6/7 years of my life, still am.
the key thing you've said here tkd is
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What good is being skinny if you are dead.
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generally people that are bulimic dont tend to care so much if they live or die, they get obsessed with trying to be a better person on the outside because they dont like whats on the inside, when it comes to the point of living or dying, most will just shrug and keep going till they die. majority of people dont care if they live or die.
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Originally Posted by Luba
GG, could you explain 'self-hatred'? As I was growing up so mixed up and no one to talk to, I believed, in a dysfunctional childhood, I disliked myself because I felt I wasn't loved, but I don't think I ever hated myself. I just chose to be the best person I can be and started gaining a healthy self-respect for myself. Guaranteed, it took quite a while to get where I am today...but it was a continual growing process!
What kinds of things happen to make a person actually hate who they are and not care whether they live or die? I'm not being judgmental, just want to understand....
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there is a key difference to disliking yourself and self-hatred.
when you dislike yourself you will try to change, to better yourself, but if push comes to shove you choose life over death.
Self-hatred is when you'd choose death over life because if change doesnt make you better nothing else will and your better off dead.
Many things can cause self-hatred, but its never normally one thing, or even two things, but a mass of things, big and small, normally linked, that causes you to believe your self worth is non-existent.
its hard to explain but i'll use some of my life as an example
peer pressure and bullies at school made me bulimic, i started to dislike my self image, the rape caused me to dislike myself on the inside for being a weak minded person, for letting it happen. a series of things then happened, from bad boyfriends, argumentative parents and numerous other things, these caused me to get more and more depressed, i blame/d myself for everything that happened, i figured everyone hated me or i was a bad person because why else would people be treating me such a way, i was anorexic for a while, on multiple anti-depressants, and finally tried to commit suicide. self-hatred is when you want to die. for whatever reason, you just honestly dont care if you live or die.
bulimia is just one example. when i gave up on life i would step out infront of cars, i would survive crossing the road or i wouldnt, i didnt care.
bulimia is the same thing, you take it so far you could live or die, but if you hate yourself you dont care.
hope this helps you understand a little more, feel free to ask anything else i will try help all i can