[Luba]

tkdlady, I will tell you where I am today! As you know, I have been beyond devastation losing our Beloved Cat because she did SO much for us in her own unique way! I have tears in my eyes right now typing this; but they are no more tears of devastation as I've felt before.

Now when I cry it is tears of thankfulness, gratitude for having had her come to us at all, and I look at it in a positive way, that she did her job keeping my husband warm through his illness, giving me love and joy, teaching me how to grieve and let go with gratitude for the three wonderful years that she brought joy into our lives!

Because of her, I am living a different way, being more of a giver! I made her a promise in my mind that I would put coin/coins away every day, if I miss a day I make up for it the next and I'm doing it. I light a candle every time I do this in honour of her! A pet as special as her will never be forgotten by us, EVER! I made her a promise that I would do this for the rest of my life, make something better for someone else, be it the SPCA, a donation to Cancer, Heart Disease, etc. On the first Anniversary of her disappearance I will donate it to a Cause for the well-being of animals. Because of her, I believe I learned more from her through her unconditional love and without saying a word, she 'spoke' loudly.

In my opinion, tkdlady, losing a pet has to be grieved out until calmness and acceptance comes, there is just no other way! Support groups really help, because only a person that has lost their beloved pet knows how it really feels!

I still have many, many, many moments where I think of her and tears flow, but I'm in the place of thankfulness and it doesn't hurt as much! We were SO fortunate to have her come and live with us and I will always be grateful!