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Originally Posted by Zil
I've never spoken much of her at all but one time, a few years back now, some commercial on television sparked something and my son turned to me and said, "Daddy... I wish we had a Mom." I was very unsure of what to say because it was so unexpected, but I ended up spitting something out similar to this: "Well son... sometimes, both parents just aren't good or aren't good together..... So, don't you think it's a good thing to have one good parent instead of two who are always arguing and being mean to each other?" He thought for a moment, then he smiled at me and gave me a huge hug.
I decided a long time ago that I would never speak badly of her to either of them. I figured I'd let them decide for themselves as they grew up what they thought of her on their own, and as they get older and ask more and more questions, depending on the age and maturity level at the time I will answer everything as truthfully as possible.
I have stayed in contact with her family for their sake and I make sure that they see them as often as possible.
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Your posting this brought tears to my eyes...how fortunate for the grandparents that you keep in touch with them also, and the children get to see them! How great it is that you don't speak badly of her to the children...so many parents do that once the marriage doesn't work out, it confuses the children and makes them feel badly as they are a Miracle from both their parents...you are really a GREAT Dad and a GREAT person!
