Re: Understanding Motives
Thanks for the kind words folks.
I have to agree on one thing for sure here Duke. I am indeed a bit of a sucker, I am certainly just to much of a nice guy. I don't argue cuss and fight with my ex, but looking back I know I've let her use me. All of the "can you take the kids" on even a moments notice, and I was like "hell yes i will take them". I totally enjoy having them with me. There are plenty of other instances where I just *let her have her way* because 1 of us has to be an adult, and I knew if I didn't then the girls would have to hear more. Well the last couple of years have been the absolute worst when it comes to her tongue. Simply because I quit saying yes to everything everytime. We (my fiance and I) have a full family here, she has 2 boys 13 and 6 then there's mine 14, 12, and 8.
I just couldn't keep saying yes anymore to everything. There are more people here to concider than myself.
Something I didn't mention on the first post. My oldest has been living here the last couple of years. She and her mom had a complete meltdown and mom pretty much gave up on how to fix the real problem. Which she couldn't admit was all HER. So my daughter got put on pills that she had a bad reaction with. Well to sum it all up, she has been here and all the things that she was doing she is not doing anymore. Her grades went up, she has friends and everything about her is sooo much better. (with ZERO pills)
Mom wanted her back last X-mas, I disagreed because, still, the real problem was not fixed. Things got even worse..
Every detail I'm giving here has a FULL story to go along with it, I could literally write for hours just on a few things that happened.
Well like I said perhaps the court will make her stop doing this crap..
I'm giving my lawyer his retainer tomorrow or the next day and we are getting the motions filed, etc etc
Hopefully this doesn't take to awful long.
Again thanks and have a good night folks
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