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Originally Posted by IR_Efrem
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Man that's quite a story. I gotta tell you d00d, I feel for ya. I also share a daughter with a woman who I don't think likes me very much and hasn't treated me the best over the past 10 years.
My situation has been changing though over the past year and I'll say, it's definitely changed for the better. I can't say as to the exact reason why it's changing as much as it is so I won't endeavor to do so. The only thing I can say is that last summer I finally realized that the reason people treat me the way they do is because I empower them to do so.
For the most part, people treat me pretty well because I'm not a bad guy (as far as I know) and I love my daughter like no other thing in this world. Unfortunately, my ex didn't think I was such a great dad (or something) and would continually treat me like an insect. Last summer I finally had enough of it and built a impenetrable wall in front of this type of behavior. The entire confrontation got really ugly but I made my point and that was pretty much the end of that nonsense. I'm not sure if this or the events that followed are directly responsible for why things changed but I can say I no longer dread having to talk to my ex and as of late, I've started to enjoy it and joke around with her a bit.
I do agree with your beliefs there is some sort of residual feeling or perhaps contempt that she feels for you which is part of the fuel she uses. What she needs to understand is that not only is it inappropriate for her kids to witness, they may ultimately resent her for her actions.
If your looking for understanding here my friend, I have a bottomless supply of it.
If your looking for insight, I haven't the foggiest idea why its so hard to split a child amicably. Sorry if I haven't helped here but this is an all to common issue (as I'm sure you know) with no clear answer, at least, none that I've found.