[Star]

You know, always blaming the parents isn't the right thing in a lot of cases.

Take my case for instance. My little baby Krystal whom I loved, protected, cherished, cared for; the little one who would never leave my side ran from us at age 13 and we didn't know why. I don't think we caused that to happen at all. I think that was all out of our control and it was her doing, not ours. We did try everything that we possibly can to get her to come to her sences before our fear of her getting pregnant or having some deadly decease happened but our efforts failed. We were there throwing the life saving devices and she wasn't taking them.

But, I will say that I just recently figured out the root of where it might of all started. A light bulb finally went off in my head and I think I figured out the piece of the puzzle that we've been missing and I bet that Krystal doesn't even realize that this is why she started behaving the way that she did in the first place.

We had Kassandra when Krystal was 3 1/2 yrs old (hubby came into her life when she was 1 yr. old, adopted her at 7 yrs old). For 2 1/2 yrs, she has had all of her daddy's attention and she was the apple of his eye, he was proud of her and she knew it. When Kassandra was born (his biological daughter), Krystal felt that she lost her daddy. She's been feeling that she wasn't daddy's girl anymore because kassandra came along. Which wasn't true at all because hubby always paid as much attention to krystal as he did kassandra but Krystal must have felt something different that we missed.

She ended up with a 23 year old guy. that to me is as plain as the nose on my face that she's looking for a father figure, a daddy. she's craving to be daddy's girl again. so i told hubby this and he's realized it also and promises to fix it so that krystal knows that she is daddy's girl and that he does love her as much as kassandra and in the same way.

We as parents are not perfect and never will be. we make mistakes along the way but if we realize the mistakes that we make and fix them, then it's ok. As kids learn from their mistakes, so do parents.