[Luba]

Just returning from a very difficult funeral and the aftermath, I'd just like to know if you prepared for a parent's death or if your parents have their wills, other important documents, downsizing instead of keeping everything they've ever been given, if they've spoken about what they've wanted done with their 'stuff'.

I KNOW this is a tough subject that is VERY difficult to discuss, but I feel it should be done. Everytime my dear departed Mother wanted to discuss it with me, I told her "no" and didn't want to accept the fact that she would die sometime. The result was when she finally did pass away, I'm almost sure we didn't carry out her total intentions though my strong brother did as much as he could. I, of course, fell totally apart...

The funeral we just came back from was a nightmare, mostly for the aftermath. Every little thing had to be searched out and there was TONS of stuff to get done....my Mother-in-law had practically nothing in place and SO much stuff that if I mentioned it here, you all wouldn't believe me because I hardly believe it myself...

I believe in talking to your parents about this difficult subject or at least find out where all the key items are; if the Will was made especially, a living will wouldn't hurt either. She obviously thought she would have more time but a lot of the time that doesn't happen; so the main affairs should be put in order, IMO.